DEI Update

I want to talk to you today about DEI. DEI has been a hot-button topic lately. My friend Eric, a dedicated Bright Lifer, recently told me he had felt like he was on a DEI journey inspired by, and in parallel with, ours. But now, he felt confused about where we stood. And I suspect he’s not the only one. 

What happened to bring this about? We have two platforms for our online support community, and one is on Facebook. Social media doesn’t always bring out the best in people, but we have Community Guidelines. Those guidelines stipulate that we don’t talk about politics and religion, but suddenly, those broad directives weren’t clear enough.  

Our primary goal is to help you live Bright. But what happens if someone has a problem related to identity and food? Like a trans person going on a trip, who is a mess about managing her food on a last-minute trip while also handling security concerns about her passport, which shows her as male. Or a Latina Bright Lifer who needs to talk about how stress is sabotaging her food after her uncle disappears, possibly deported. 

We realized that these types of posts, from people who genuinely needed help, bumped up against our community guidelines. It wasn’t clear what people could and couldn’t say.

So our team got together and crafted a new set of guidelines. We wanted to keep incendiary, hostile speech out of our community while allowing a personal sharing of each person’s life and how it related to their food journey. We still ask people to avoid political terms, but sharing your heart and soul with us is fine.

Then Eric looked at the new guidelines and noticed that there was a paragraph that had been taken out. He asked me to reconsider. It used to say: “BLE does not accept any type of hate speech or bullying, including anti-blackness, homophobia, transphobia, classism, antisemitism, fatphobia, etc. Practice love, kindness, and support in your comments to others.” None of that was allowed in the new guidelines, but the language had changed. 

So we worked out a new one. Here’s what it says now: “BLE does not accept any type of hate speech or bullying, including statements or actions that are disrespectful to people based on their age, race, ethnicity, sex, gender identity, sexuality, religion, lack of religion, ability, nationality, political affiliation, background, size, economic status, or ideology. All people are welcome here. Practice love, compassion, acceptance, and support in your comments to others. And where you and others differ, be kind, and keep your eyes on your own plate.”

I feel great about that paragraph. The difference between old and new is that the rewritten version specifically focuses on people’s behaviors. Ideologies are one thing, but what we can legislate in our community guidelines are not allowing actions or statements that hurt people. 

So what about DEI? We did intensive DEI work in the company starting in 2019 with an amazing consultant named Trudi Lebron and I released three vlogs about it, but during our big layoffs and massive restructuring of the company starting in 2022 there was a hiatus. 

Recently someone sent me an article that several big meta-analyses that show that DEI workshops and the like don’t work. I was blown away, and called Trudi. She told me that that research is true…but that DEI isn’t a workshop. “DEI” refers to outcome measures

In any given group of people, you can look at diversity on any number of measures, such as age, nationality, or cognitive capacity, and measure how much diversity there is. E is equity. You can review how equitable the division of resources is in a company. For inclusion, you can look at whether people feel like their voices are heard. Are their ideas valued? Those are all outcome measures.

That makes sense to me. I want those outcomes. I want to live in a world where the extremes of wealth and poverty aren’t as dire as they are today. I want our community to feel welcoming to all people. That may not be possible, but that’s what I want to aim for.  

I know that for members of our community, seeing the language change in our guidelines, at this particular juncture in history, was very destabilizing. If you felt that pain, I am sorry. 

I realize that some people don’t feel safe in the large Facebook group right now. And I have some thoughts about not feeling safe. I do think that “not feeling safe” is a feeling. (Unlike “feeling fat” which isn’t a feeling.) But not feeling safe can mean a large number of things. 

Not feeling safe could mean that you’re in a good place in your environment, but others need to change. It could mean you need to leave the environment because it truly isn’t safe (think of a dark alley at night). It could mean there’s nothing wrong, but you just need to do some work to feel safer, or even just endure it (think of people who don’t feel safe flying on an airplane). 

One option is to consider moving from Facebook, which is often not a safe place, to our own support community, the BLE Community Circle. That is a very safe forum. Or maybe the large group online support communities will never be your safest place in BLE. You might do better with a Mastermind group, a Gideon Games team, buddies, and attending accountability calls. You might want to partake of the thousands of hours of incredible courses we have and find a few friends to work through them with.  

If you’ve written in, know that your voice has been heard. You have had an impact. We’ve been reading your messages and really internalizing them. Thank you for letting us know what you think and how you feel. 

You may not have been aware of any of this coming down. Or it may have been a very big deal for you. I know that I cannot have recorded a message here that will hit the spot for everyone. I don’t know everything and I make mistakes. But I care about this community, and though it took time for me to sort through what I had to say about this, perhaps too much time, I hope that the hours my team and I have been working on this topic have value for you.

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