Sunset is a Sign

I feel awful.

Or, as my dear friend Georgia would say, I’m feeling pretty crispy.

And I’m bracing for the day like it’s going to be a long, slow hike with a blister.

The only upside is that I don’t need to go searching for a reason.

And I don’t need to take it too seriously.

It’s clear why I feel like this.


I didn’t get enough sleep last night.

And I didn’t get enough sleep the night before.

If I get fewer than six hours of sleep one night, I can usually expect to function fairly well the next day.


But if I do it again the next night, I can most definitely expect….this.

I hardly ever choose sleep deprivation deliberately.

Rather, it’s a creeping non-choice, the consequence of one tragic error.

Failing to heed the sign of sunset.

For those who have never considered sunset to be a sign, allow me to illustrate.

When I was a kid, the brightest part of life was Camp Tawonga.

Camp Tawonga, the best sleep-away summer camp in the world, IMHO, sits on the middle fork of the Tuolumne River just outside of Yosemite National Park, and it happens to be a Jewish summer camp.

I wasn’t really Jewish growing up. Technically speaking, my dad is Jewish, but he’s a cultural Jew of the secular variety. Other than belonging to the JCC in San Francisco, we didn’t follow Jewish traditions, unless we were visiting extended family. And Camp Tawonga was reform Jewish, in a sort of Northern California, hippie kind of way.

They made religion seem pretty okay.

But anyway, at Camp Tawonga, I got introduced to the concept of the Sabbath, and especially Shabbat dinner.

Each week on Friday, late in the afternoon, a special feeling would come into the air. We’d all vigorously shower off the Tawonga dirt and don white clothes. The mirrors in the women’s bathhouse would scrunch together with girls leaning in to put on makeup. We’d put clips or ribbons in our hair. Then we’d stand outside our cabin bunks and wait for the singing procession to arrive.

As the sun descended, a long, thick snake of people, led by two men in yarmulkes playing acoustic guitars, would advance toward us and we’d merge into the end of the line, strolling ceremoniously toward the dining hall.

We lit candles, broke bread, and said prayers.

We ate a big feast together.

We celebrated the sun going down.

It was the beginning of the Sabbath.

Because the day begins at sunset.

I’m half-Jewish by blood, but my religion, today, is the Baha’i Faith.

In the Baha’i Faith, similarly, the day begins at sunset.

The leaf of the new day doesn’t turn over at midnight.

Nor at sunrise.

It turns over at sunset.

A simple but powerful notion.

There is wisdom there.

Wisdom that applies to Bright Line Eating™.

Because for the Bright Line Eater too, an amazing Bright Line Day, bursting with the bliss of living Happy, Thin, and Free™, must be cultivated beginning at sunset the night before.

Sunset is a sign.

A sign that says, THE DAY HAS ENDED.

Time to look ahead to tomorrow.

Prepare well, because if you fail to heed the sign of sunset, tomorrow will fall flat.

I know this.

I don’t always follow it, but I know it.

When the sun sets, what I need to do is stop the day.

Stop the day, and start my evening ritual.

Plan my food for tomorrow.

Write it down in my little food journal.

Make sure the kitchen island is clear and the papers on my desk have been filed away.

Get the kids to bed with a bath, teeth brushing and flossing, a prayer, a story, some gentle back tickles, and a kiss.

Go through my smart phone and tie up all the loose ends from the day. Phone calls made or not made. Tasks completed or left undone. Move them to free spots on the next day’s calendar. Check the global to-do list. Look ahead to see what’s coming over the next few days. Review what’s on the docket for tomorrow until every last action item is cleared out of my mind and I can stop thinking.

Then shut down the electronics.

Brush and floss my teeth; swish with mouthwash.

Get undressed and put on my slippers.

Stretch, sink onto my knees, and touch my forehead to the ground.

Thank God for another Bright Line day.

Then climb into bed and start my lights-out ritual.

Fill in my Nightly Checklist Sheet.

Relive the day just passed and encapsulate it in my Five Year Journal.

Read a passage from the Baha’i writings.

Set the alarm.



There is one linchpin to this process.

One action so important that the success of the whole endeavor hinges on its successful execution.

Shut down the electronics.

That’s where I get stuck.

Maybe I get stuck there because the internet is addictive, I’m truly a junkie, and I need “just one more minute.”

Which sucks down one more hour. Or three.

Maybe I get stuck there because my commitments are numerous and there is legitimate and important work left to be done.

Fair enough.

But I think I get stuck there because I fail to heed the sign of sunset.


What hasn’t yet been done is, fundamentally, tomorrow’s work.

Leave it for then.

This is the time for preparing for tomorrow, not living tomorrow.

When I surrender the day at sunset and turn my attention to preparing for tomorrow, I reap the benefits.

And when I manage to do it night after night, week after week, my life starts to explode with goodness.

I am more productive.

I am healthier.

But most of all, I am much, much, much happier.

Just like I thrive when I put boundaries around my food—no sugar, no flour, three meals a day, and weighed and measured quantities; I thrive when I put boundaries around my day—kids in bed by eight, electronics off by nine, lights out by ten.

And sometimes I organize my life such that I’m choosing to get up really, really early and then the nighttime routine needs to get shifted quite a bit earlier than that.

But no matter the exact hour, the principle remains the same.

And the linchpin remains the same.

Shut down the electronics.

So it’s worth mentioning some strategies I’ve used in the past to help me succeed with not getting sucked into the blue glow of a dastardly screen until the wee hours of the night.

First of all, having a very clear time boundary helps.

A Bright Line.

I don’t touch electronics after 9 pm.

That’s my current Bright Line.

But I’m not managing to be successful in sticking with it, so clearly I need more support.

I recently put it on my Nightly Checklist Sheet.

That’s a good move, because tracking is one of the best forms of personal accountability.

I added two new rows, with check boxes either to be ticked off “completed” or circled “incomplete” each night:

— I shut down all electronics by 9 p.m.

— I am turning out the lights by 10 p.m.

But if I review my Nightly Checklist Sheets for the past few weeks, what stands out is that I almost always circle “turning out the lights by 10 p.m.” as undone.

The scribbled writing underneath the box reveals the extent of my sin.

“Sin” as in the original etymological definition of the word.

“To miss the mark.”

I am missing the mark.

My lights-out time has not been 10 p.m. but rather 11:08 p.m.

12:35 a.m.

Even 2:23 a.m.


So I need a more potent form of accountability.

Human accountability.

The nights on which I’m successful at turning out the lights on time and getting a fabulous night’s sleep typically begin with me driving home from work and talking on the phone with a buddy, saying how tired I am and how I really, REALLY need to get to bed on time tonight.

Since I’m well aware that shutting down electronics is the linchpin to heeding the sign of sunset, I will often seize the moment and declare, “I commit to you, right now, that after I put the kids to bed tonight I will NOT OPEN UP MY LAPTOP AT ALL. No computer use whatsoever. I’m just going to go into my bedroom, start my nighttime routine, and get the lights out early.”

And she’ll say, “Okay! I’ll take that commitment. You got it.”

This verbal commitment will raise my odds of success from something like 30% up to something like 95%.

Them’s powerful words.

And, right here, right now, I’m going to throw my knapsack over the wall.

I commit to you, out loud, right now, that tonight after the kids are in bed I will not touch my laptop at all. Nor will I venture past the calendar and Evernote apps on my phone (i.e., no email, and no Facebook). And once I’m done doing my calendar and to-do-list review on my phone I will plug it in DOWNSTAIRS.

Tonight I will get a good night’s sleep.

Tonight I will heed the sign of sunset.

With love,




  1. Becky Fields Katz

    The notion of the day beginning each evening resonates with me deeply. Instead of being consumed with feeling tired and depleted and wanting to eat off plan, I can focus on planning my food for tomorrow and closing down the day so I get enough sleep, commit my food to my buddy. Focus on those things that will make the 24 hours until tomorrow evening strong. It is a beautiful reframe!

    Reply ·
  2. Janice Ingram

    I am so glad I jumped over here to read this blog!! It really resonated with me because as one of Jehovah’s Witnesses, “after sunset” on Nisan 14 of the Jewish Calendar is when we observe the most sacred night of the year for us and that is the commemoration observance of the Lord’s Evening Meal. Understanding the significance of how the next day started “between the two evenings” has such spiritual significance beginning with God’s command in the Hebrew Scriptures. Applying that now to my Bright Line Eating routine, “at the end of the day” really is a great way to begin looking at this ritual. Thank you so much Susan! Your thoughts then and now are so inspiring to me!

    Reply ·
    1. Bright Line Eating

      Hi, Janice! We are so glad this Vlog resonated with you. Wishing you many Bright days to come! ☀️

      Reply ·
  3. Julie

    Ahh. Perfectly simple. Simply perfect.

    Reply ·
  4. Peggy

    Timeless good idea!! Thank you, Susan.🐦

    Reply ·
  5. Suzi

    Instead of using will power to turn my evening device off, I use an alarm on my device set 15 minutes before 9pm. (15 minutes is the amount of time I usually need to finish up, adjust this to your own needs.) Because the alarm interrupts my focus with the alarm’s popup screen and sound, it really helps me to start wrapping up. (Having the alarm on a different device than the one I’m working on doesn’t break my focus as well.) This is the one time it’s okay to hit snooze. (My snooze is set for 5 minutes.) So every 5 minutes an alarm sounds and a popup breaks my focus. By the time 9pm rolls around, I’m ready to stop hitting snooze and settle down for sleep. Reminds me of Pavlov but for sleep. Susan, you are doing great work. It’s almost 9pm, turn that laptop off and get to bed! Sweet Dreams! xoxo

    Reply ·
  6. Su

    Susan, I drew this line just 2 weeks ago and, whilst sometimes still challenging as it’s a long-ingrained habit, I’ve have zero regrets. Even when sometimes it’s still hard to sleep, absence of electronics helps me listen to this information better too. Very best to you as you resume!

    Reply ·
  7. Monica Leggett

    I love your honesty, your awareness, and your constant commitment and re-commitment to values and goals that are so important to you. Hearing you and your struggles reminds me of what I hear from so many other entrepreneurs – that running our business is a more-than-full-time job. We try to find a balance between work and “quality of life” choices, but it rarely happens that way, especially when you are on the steep curve of growing a great following that you care about so deeply.
    Keep setting Bright Lines (and inspire us to do the same).
    Keep recommitting.
    AND keep building the team that will eventually allow you to lean on them and give the quality support to you that you offer so many of us.
    I’ll remember the sunset prompt tomorrow and put my work away for the night!

    Reply ·
    1. diane

      recommitting takes courage, but it’s also guilt that gets me some times, when I deploy all my efforts to what I know will benefit me most. Like the cookie I just ate! BOO!

      Reply ·
  8. Elizabeth

    Hi Susan, What happened to ….
    I have been living by that motto for a long time and when you highlighted it to me the light bulb went off.
    Interestingly, since then I have been achieving more because of my awareness of ONE THING. I seem to have accomplished more just by being even more focused on the ONE THING. This enables me to tick it off the list more readily as I don’t have to worry about the pressure of everything else that is screaming for attention.
    Back to the lack of sleep and the inability to ‘turn off’.
    I think that we are all caught up on the same treadmill. There is soooo much that grabs our attention and then demands our attention, but, we have created it this way.
    When we have a spare moment….we fill it!
    My aunt said to me recently “I don’t like it when people say ‘I have to’ when really what they should say is ‘I choose to’ or ‘I have chosen to'”.
    I have watched myself and my language and whether I am uttering “I gotta”.
    I don’t even have to help my children with their homework (some parents don’t), except, for me …..
    Life is about choices which we all know and yet, we follow almost unwittingly at times what everyone else is doing…… like sheep. Their kids are playing 2 sports and learning a musical instrument etc. etc and so my child should also have that same opportunity.
    We compare ourselves and our lives to those of our children’s peers and our peers and what our society as a whole is doing.
    We are all frantically ‘doing’ and not ‘being’.
    I am as guilty as the next person of this.
    The only justification I give myself and to relieve myself from any guilt (burdens add weight!), is that I put a great deal of effort into my children and my family and the time we have together is quality, quality, quality. Loving, cuddling, talking, listening, sharing, doing and just being together.
    Being present in the moment and enjoying each moment for what it is worth without worrying about the next.
    In the bible it reminds us to not worry about tomorrow for today has enough worries of it’s own and I live by this……and, it helps.
    I love reading your thoughts and I do appreciate your honesty and personal insight.
    But….one day, I would love to receive an email from you saying…
    “Sorry guys, heading to bed early tonight….catch you next week”!!
    PS You don’t need to respond! Give yourself a break 🙂

    Reply ·
  9. Ajji

    I had the privilege of studying for many months in Pune, India, at a world-renowned yoga institute. The son of the guru BKS Iyengar, Prashant, in his spiritual talks frequently used the word, “advertent” to describe the mindful, focused, life of correct choices and planning. It is not in most dictionaries. Too bad. ( But its opposite is, “inadvertent.’ We know that one. )
    Ownership of one’s life. Maturity. Thanks!!!

    Reply ·
  10. Jenny carr

    Makes perfect sense. I actually turn off the electronics no problem but I am trying to be asleep before 11pm to take advantage of all the essential rhythms that go on in the body naturally. Thanks for your input.

    Reply ·
View All Comments ▾

Add a Comment

Your email address will not be published.

You may use these HTML tags and attributes: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <cite> <code> <del datetime=""> <em> <i> <q cite=""> <s> <strike> <strong>