Curiosity – Part 2

Last week, I recorded the vlog about my thoughts following an important conversation I’d just had with a good friend of mine. In this week’s vlog, I continue the discussion on the topic that conversation raised: the role curiosity plays in understanding the various parts of ourselves that are at work in our Bright Line Eating™ journeys. Watch to hear all about it.

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  1. kristen gamarra

    that was so powerful
    thank you for your honesty and openness
    so much hope i feel
    and i relate so much

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  2. Gogo Emmons

    Please remove the swap up thing on fb…. It didn’t let me do it. So frustrating. I had to tried the video several times and finally gave up without watching in.

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  3. Gogo Emmons

    SO GLAD THAT I WAS ABLE TO SEE IT HERE ! Amazing Video. I so need it to see it today.

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  4. Susan Clow

    Oh gosh I’ve gone through all the feelings. Especially the one that suddenly I want something that sounds good and that it’s not good for me, but start planning what I’m going to get. Next time I’m going to take a deep breath and talk to my child. Sexual abuse from my father is what triggered my eating issue. Food became my drug and since then I’ve gone on to eat raw food, but believe me I still get these feelings to have something that triggers in my brain to eat. I will now get curious and go inward and ask what my little girl needs. This was a great video of honesty that was incredibly helpful to me.

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  5. Lavina

    Thank-you so much Susan for being so honest and vulnerable! It’s a big part of why you have such a big following!
    I appreciate that you put a big emphasis on making wife and Mother a high priority! It’s the only things that will last so lets not let the time with them slip thru our hands.

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  6. Theresa

    Today was one of those days when something wonky was going on with me… So once again perfect timing Susan…. Thank you!

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  7. Helena Spalic

    I just loved it! It’s true, it’s inspiring, it’s charming! Thank you! God bless you, Susan!
    P.S. Check out Heartfulness Meditation. It’s all about inner curiosity

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  8. Cathy Abrahamson

    I’ve never considered that I am made up of different parts. I loved this VLOG!! I needed to hear this today! I’ve been dealing with a lot of anxiety and feelings that I’m not even sure how to address and have been affecting my lines. I love knowing that you are human and not perfect with your lines. Learning to identify the different “parts” of me is quite intriguing to me. Thank you for sharing a part of your personal life with us!!

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    1. Bright Line Eating

      Thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts, Cathy! <3 It sounds like it was just what you needed at this present space and time. All the best and sending love.

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  9. Joseph

    Wow! I found that powerful!

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  10. Anna

    The best vlog I’ve seen in a long time!

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  11. Monica Dean

    I loved this vlog!! I definitely resonated with the wounded little girl. That was the part of me that used food in my former self to eat because food loved me when no one else did. When my saboteur comes calling it will be useful to move inside my self and see if she’s there and what’s really going on,
    Thank you, and a big hug!!

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  12. Sandy

    Thank you again for sharing your journey. I have followed BLE for 3.5 years and it has been transformational. This is a remarkable program and you have helped so many. I strongly recommend this to anyone who struggles with food.
    As you have evolved and grown the company, however, it is clear that the journey is complex for so many of us. There are many paths to healing and no doubt parts work and IFS may be helpful for many.
    The company tag line, “Happy, thin, and free” has always felt a bit hollow for me. I am thin but happiness and freedom are more textured and at times elusive. I wonder if the tag line constrains you. It seems to result in a lurching to the next shiny new thing that is “the answer.”
    I think you have developed an answer. But freedom and happiness may not be something that is inherent to creating new pathways for saner, more controlled eating that help people get to and maintain their right size body. One arrives and there is still life with all its beauty but yes pain, joy but yes sorry, exhilaration but yes bone crushing fatigue that were there before.

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    1. Bright Line Eating

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Sandy. Good points to consider and think on some more!

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  13. Kathy Kennedy

    Can I get some information on this Freedom Course Susan is talking about? I have been on BLE for over a year…maintaining my weight, but identify with the parts thing. Just would like to possibly sign up.
    Thanks

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    1. Bright Line Eating

      Hi Kathy! Absolutely! If you could please reach out to our support team, they can help you with that! Please go to support.brightlineeating.com and you can get in touch with us through that page. <3

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  14. Ann King

    This reminds me of what I have learned from meditation. To observe the thoughts as they come in and gently nudge them away . They are only there because the brain doing it’s thinking thing. This vlog is about observing and naming the thoughts but being removed from them like an outsider. I like it, I’m going to try this when I’m not meditating.

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  15. Cat

    This was a very insightful vlog Susan, thank you. I have a habit of writing down, what I will do each week. {perhaps because I did this at work, and felt such accomplishment when I could cross things off} Ie., stick to my bright lines, exercise every day, shop, clean house etc., etc. to the point I think my inner person feels so much better, but I don’t actually Follow through. I’m calming myself down, but never am satisfied with the follow through. You’ve made me look at myself differently. Thank you so much for this insight.

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  16. Anne

    I could resonate with everything you said. I know you meditate and I have been remiss lately about doing it. We all have monkey minds. The curious part made me think of how we often do not stay in the present. We are either guilty or regretful about the past, then there’s the anxiety regarding the future. I try not to beat myself up either, I’m human and life can be difficult at times. We get distracted, tired, excited and make excuses for ourselves. If we can just stop for a second and ask ourself to take a breath and wonder, what’s going on right now? I may not have the answer, but at least there is the realization that the higher part of yourself is looking for peace. Thanks for this. To you, me and everyone, stay curious, stay present.

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  17. Karen

    Thanks so much for your honesty. I’ve pictured you sailing along with perfect BLs. When I struggle I reach for support from tapping and hypnosis..I have to use the tools in my resource box.

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  18. Tina

    Great Vlog Susan! Really helps open up things for me, for myself personally, but also it will help me look at others and their own behaviors, for where they could be stemming from. This will give me pause before I react, so I can reflect, and react more compassionately. Having my loved one going through rehab for alcoholism at the moment, this will give me a great way to understand and reflect more, and be more supportive. So often there are emotions that well up and come to a head, and I can’t tell immediately why, and instead of knee jerk reactions to this I will be more mindful.

    Thank you also for you candid personal stories they really make what you trying to get across relatable and real.

    Thank you!

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  19. Mary

    Did I miss the part of where the nine days research was explicitly stated? Was it that you have been curious for nine days?

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    1. Mary

      Watched both parts again, the experiment seems to be enrollment in BL Freedom??

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  20. Steven

    You are Amazing!

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  21. Debbi Neher

    As always I love your openness and transparency. I did notice that in last week’s vlog you specifically mentioned that you had obtained Jen’s permission to name her in relating your conversation with her. I’m hoping that you also got Zoe’s permission to relate some very personal things about her this week. An oversight in not mentioning it, I hope.

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  22. Pamela

    Thanks for sharing your struggle. We’ve all had them for sure, no one gets spared. Forgive me for any annoying unsolicited advice. You have said in the last few years that you eat a plant based bright line eating food plan. I believe you’re not completely vegan because you’ve mentioned eating yogurt (and chicken on occasion.?) To each their absolutelyfrigginown BUT, it may be the cause of your cravings and struggles in just the last few years. You kept your bright lines for mannnnny years, even during some of the worst times of your life. So why not now suddenly? I was a dedicated vegan and realized that myself and countless other vegans enjoyed the hell out of a plant based diet in the early stage detox phase (first 2-3 years). Then suddenly, and very subtlety, overeating and binges start happening. On plants. Friggin plants. Plant based foods. Health foods. Seems odd. But the fact was, once our bodies detoxed, they began to slowly and quietly waste. Creating cravings that nothing satisfies. Years of this and bloating and health problems brought me and countless others back to meat and meat fat which, unfortunately, was the only thing that reversed that. I don’t know a single multi-yeared vegan or vegetarian that doesn’t privately binge or have a problematic relationship with food (not to say that there aren’t thrivers out there). I’ve noticed that you’ve lost a lot of weight in your face in the last few years (do you still look good? Of course you do) and your body may just be subtlety, like a creeping gnat that needs a swattin, be searching for more fat and meat based foods. I’m done, commence eye-rolling. But, for you, I might be right

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    1. Mary Wilson

      Well, you don’t know me, but I haven’t eaten animal protein for years and I don’t crave them.

      So — there’s one, at least! 🙂

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  23. Katherine

    Really wonderful vlog. I love that you are sharing the BL Freedom experience with everyone in the BLE community. It’s great to hear how even just an introduction to parts work can change some interactions, both inside and out. Thank you.

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  24. Donnee

    Thanks Susan, yes we have many parts residing inside. I became deeply intimate with most of mine as I have gone through five years of therapy including two of deep work with EMDR which was designed to help people cope with trauma. It was during this time that I first learned of BLE not exactly new concepts having heard them from Dr. Christian Northrup a number of years ago, but in a way that this science wonk could appreciate and know that it wasn’t just another fad diet. The first time I heard it, I was completely unwilling to entertain the possibility that it could work for me. After all the EMDR work I came across BLE and I was amazed that I was excited to hear the information, get and read the book and start BLE that day 2/9/19. I have lost thirty pounds and feel great. I still have a long way to go but I am clear and know that I can do it.

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  25. Mary Wilson

    Susan, I appreciate your casual way of speaking. I would also appreciate it if you would find another way to refer to people with major mental illness. “Whack job” is a really painful thing to hear. You have great compassion for those who suffer from various forms of disordered eating. It would be great if that compassion extended to those with other illnesses, too, and you likely do feel the compassion — but the phrasing doesn’t make it seem that way.

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    1. Bright Line Eating

      Oh Mary, thank you so much for your feedback and we apologize for any offense! Susan is not referencing mental illness in this vlog with that phrase.. She was using a light-hearted expression as she realizes this content may seem a bit out there for some who watch this vlog. Our apologies to you, friend. <3

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    2. Susie

      I felt that same way when listening.

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  26. Kate

    Your vulnerability makes you SO likable! I am new to BLE but would just like to share my experience with structured exercise. I heard your inner dialogue about wanting your body to feel the way it does when you exercise but your schedule won’t allow for that until Sept. I used to think about it that way also. Now I move on the “one thing a day” motto, as in, making time to stretch on my bedroom floor for 5 min. before showering, or 10 pushups before bed, or a walk around the block with the dog before dinner, or clenching my abs as I go up and down the stairs with laundry. I’m much happier doing something small every day, rather than fits and spurts at the gym.

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  27. ilene

    I am familiar with IFS and I appreciate that you are creating opportunities for others to become familiar with it. It really does work when we care for ourselves and listen to what we need from within ourselves!
    thanks

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    1. Jackie Almeida

      I’ve been waiting until I could wear bunny slippers to stop mainlineing flour and your share about your busy (and so very unbunny slipper) life has me curious if it would be more or less complicated with an active addiction. More complicated was the answer. But now thin and free won’t be enough – That moment you and your daughter had, I want to have THAT too. Like NOW. Thank you for upping the ante about the important stuff.

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  28. waldemar

    Dear Susan, I’ve no words for what &how you’re doing this amazing mission for us… with our limmitted body, but not limmited…at all!
    This is a poem from Hermann Hesse, a German poet and writer, entitled “Steps”. It is one of my favourite poems, and I do give a copy to most of the people I meet and consider my friends, dear Susan. Enjoy:

    As every blossom fades
    and all youth sinks into old age,
    so every life’s design, each flower of wisdom,
    attains its prime and cannot last forever.
    The heart must submit itself courageously
    to life’s call without a hint of grief,
    A magic dwells in each beginning,
    protecting us, telling us how to live.
    High purposed we shall traverse realm on realm,
    cleaving to none as to a home,
    the world of spirit wishes not to fetter us
    but raise us higher, step by step.
    Scarce in some safe accustomed sphere of life
    have we establish a house, then we grow lax;
    only he who is ready to journey forth
    can throw old habits off.
    Maybe death’s hour too will send us out new-born
    towards undreamed-lands,
    maybe life’s call to us will never find an end
    Courage my heart, take leave and fare thee well. When will you visit Europe again. We need you.W

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  29. Denise

    Wow. That’s amazing! So interesting how quickly your daughter picked up on that and how well it worked for her! How interesting that she has the blaming part and doesn’t even want it.—and appears to have figured that out now. Such a good thing! Thank you for sharing…I’m still mulling this over…..

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  30. Cindy

    You brought me to tears, Susan, good tears. You awakened in me the need to listen to all parts of me. Thank you for being your authentic, wide open self. You model what we need to be to survive and be Happy , Thin and Free! Thank you.

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  31. Sally

    Are you familiar with John Bradshaw’s book, Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child? It was so helpful for me when I did the healing work of recovery from divorce and a marriage rooted in the neediness of my inner child. With God’s help and some intense reflective days alone on my couch, the longings of my toddler self were healed.

    This vlog was helpful in helping me to assess why I have recently gotten so busy. I will give more thought to what is driving me. Thanks.

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    1. Bright Line Eating

      Thank you for the recommendation, Sally! Great to hear of your healing as well! <3

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  32. Charli Woolsey

    My kids are grown and gone, wish I had this program when I was raising them. So powerful. Thank you for all the time you devote to us and your intimate sharing.

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  33. Mary

    Love this! I have done some parts work within a Spiritual context called “Heart Sync “(Heart Sync was developed by Fr. Andrew Miller, LCSW- http://www.heartsyncministries.org/)and it allowed me to begin the process of dealing with my food/body image issues/ fear in ways that nothing else did prior! You are so right, amazing how we all lie on the continuum of dissociation-from simple daydreaming all the way of up to DID. Your vlog today really tickled me as I did not recognize how much curiosity plays a role in this approach, especially when I do my own work with Jesus without a facilitator.

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  34. Sheila Puzio

    Snoopy when he’s jogging and all his body parts talk to him…… we all have these parts. If we’re honest with ourselves, we know it.

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  35. Marilyn Wojnar

    I loved what Susan had to say about her parts and her daughter’s parts. I am dying because of what I am eating. I am bingeing everyday. I am my 94 yr-old mother’s caregiver and it is killing me. I cannot stay at home and follow the BLE food plan. I cannot even buy groceries and eat them at home. My mother and sister want to go out to eat everyday and my mother doesn’t even eat. Sorry, I do not want to complain. I lost weight on the BLE plan and I felt GREAT, but I have relapsed and I eat junk food all the time. I keep praying for help. I did the boot camp and loved it! It was difficult, mostly because I could not eat my meals at home.
    I want to say that I am very grateful for Susan and the work that she does. It gives me a lot of hope. I hope and pray that I can get back on track. Thank-you for letting me vent.

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    1. Bright Line Eating

      Oh Marilyn! You are doing hard and meaningful work and our hearts and love are extended to you. We are here to support you in any capacity we can. <3 Thinking of you and your dear mom, friend.

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  36. Marilyn Wojnar

    I loved what Susan had to say about her parts and her daughter’s parts. I am dying because of what I am eating. I am bingeing everyday. I am my 94 yr-old mother’s caregiver and it is killing me. I cannot stay at home and follow the BLE food plan. I cannot even buy groceries and eat them at home. My mother and sister want to go out to eat everyday and my mother doesn’t even eat. Sorry, I do not want to complain. I lost weight on the BLE plan and I felt GREAT, but I have relapsed and I eat junk food all the time. I keep praying for help. I did the boot camp and loved it! It was difficult, mostly because I could not eat my meals at home.
    I want to say that I am very grateful for Susan and the work that she does. It gives me a lot of hope. I hope and pray that I can get back on track. Thank-you for letting me vent.

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  37. Stefi

    Another great vlog! I really admire what your little baby overcame with that necrosis as a baby. Blessings to you & family Susan

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  38. Shirley

    I love Everett, but I find that you speak to my authentic self without fail. You are always from the heart, not that he isn’t, but your heart speaks to mine in away that no one else does. Love you and SO grateful that you share!

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  39. Jason

    Thank you, Susan. Yet again you’re reaching those of us low on the scale. I’ve always felt a duality but you’ve now made me realize it’s actually crowded in there. Curious! This should keep me busy for a while…

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  40. Makeila Estelle

    This is so helpful, I definitely need to be more curious and investigate my inner parts!!

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