You’re Not Missing Out

On a Bright Lifers’ coaching call last weekend, I was asked a question by someone preparing to take a trip to Japan. She wanted to know how she could enjoy herself without trying all the new cultural delicacies. It made me reflect on my own journey in a way I never had before. Watch the vlog to hear all about it.

Comments

  1. Amy Brislen

    Hi Susan: Just curious: should we try to be more aware of our surroundings or just accept this as part of the human condition? The research you cite is alarming. I realize this isn’t the point you’re making, but it’s more food for thought that rose to surface after thinking about your blog. Cheers,

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    1. Malika

      In case Susan doesn’t get a chance to answer you, my two cents: that is exactly what the meditation traditions have trained minds to do for ages – to live in the present moment so you can and take in your surroundings and perceive life as it actually is, rather than being caught up in a string of thoughts, emotions, desires that take us out of the present.

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  2. Becky Yaeger

    this was helpful, as that I’m also going on a trip next year

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  3. Debbi Neher

    I’ve seen that video with the guy in the gorilla suit! Thanks for bringing us more fascinating science that helps us go more deeply and more joyfully into this journey 🙂

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  4. Camilla Greene

    Last week my husband and I went to a dinner party celebrating the 86th birthday of a friend. The party started at 7pm. Knowing that my husband and I had dinner at 5:30pm at home. My husband is a 1 on the susceptibility scale; I am a 10. And my husband is very supportive of my BLE. I brought my glass bottle of water to the celebration. I had a wonderful time. I did not eat anything nor did I feel compelled to eat anything. I was feeling very satisfied with what I had already eaten. I was able to help serve the birthday cake and I was amongst friends who were sipping wine and eating cheese. Again I had no compulsion to eat NMF. I enjoyed the conversations. I connected with friends I already knew and I made new friends. I hope this feeling of expanding my horizons because I am not focused on what I am or am not going to eat… because I am not tempted by NMF will be a lifelong habit. Thank you.

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    1. Bright Line Eating

      That’s wonderful Camilla! So happy you’re able to find joy in your interactions and connections with others and not have fixation on the food!

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  5. Barbara Kramen-Kahn

    My husband (not BLE) and I are in week 4 of a 3 month journey traveling to foreign countries we have never visited before with only flights booked. I am celebrating 3 years on BLE on 2/15/19 and am so glad I am in a right sized body enjoying bright lines with all me to focus on the experiences of this travel opportunity feeling happy, thin and free. I am not missing out on food, I am caring deeply about myself by eating the BLE way. Adventures here I come.

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  6. Donna

    I was blown away that we only take in about 2% of what is going on around us! This really put into perspective for me how little the food part of my travel experiences matter. Thank you.

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  7. Debbie Abshire

    That is an excellent explanation, just “shifting” our focus. What a wonderful perception and I think this would be a wonderful response to someone trying to get me to “try a food”, I can just say, “No,thanks, I’m trying to keep my focus shifted away from food so much”. Really enjoyed this!

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  8. Penny

    Do you cookie bake, do fondue etc. with your kids so they have those experiences or do you help them shift as well. I ask because it seems natural to me to make memories making cookies etc. with my grandkids like I did my children but, I wonder if that is a direction we should do with the kids in our life or start them young focusing on different experiences in life? thanks!

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  9. Risa Hershman

    I would love to hear more travel prep tips. My husband and I leave the country for over 2 months at a time, and I’m the one who often struggles with restaurant menus. The best app I’ve found helps me locate vegetarian/vegan cafes (because I’m always searching for veggies) in most places we roam, but our next trip is with friends who are seriously carnivorous, as is my hubby! Thanks for any and all suggestions.

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  10. susan richlin

    So helpful because i just started my second bootcamp after i got lost in the first . We are going next month to Bali and Singapore for 2 weeks and i plan to stay 100 BLE friendly .. loved this vlog .. thanks so much

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  11. Helen Spingola

    This was an eye-opener for me! Cannot understand how many people are so unaware of changes taking place right in front of them!! Scary! I hope
    they are more vigilant when driving!!

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  12. Victoria Slater

    Brilliant!

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  13. Christie Hardwick

    Hi Susan,

    Thank you for your work, your transparency and authenticity. I appreciate you. I started brightline eating on January 7 at an all inclusive resort in Mexico. For seven days prior I had lots of tequila every day and ate anything I wanted. After two weeks home I was heading to Paris and then Italy for a planned sabbatical to celebrate most of my 60th year. When first I conceived of it, I imagined all the wine, pasta and bread I would enjoy. After just 30 days I’ve released 15 pounds and I feel great. I am in Paris without champagne and it doesn’t diminish the Sacré Coure, Momartre or the Musée Rodin. Tonight I was repeatedly offered deserts, after dinner drinks and declined them all. The proprietor was perplexed so she brought out a bowl full of candy. I politely took a piece then tossed it once outside. We leave for Rome on Friday then more than two months in different parts of Italy. How beautiful and satisfying will I find Italy without Pane, pasta e vino? I’m guessing as beautiful as I’ll find my right sized body in a few months.

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    1. Bright Line Eating

      Wow! What an adventure Christie! You’ve got a terrific mindset!

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  14. Michelle New

    Thank you for this insight ! With all that in mind , I’m determined to be present each day !
    I have traveled much in my time and still do ,everywhere I go I have made sure I take the time to be aware of what is happening around me. Since becoming a BLE (2016) life is even more in color and the food just isn’t that important anymore….I taught our children to literally stop and smell the roses, listen to the sounds around them, take in at least one thing you see that’s worth remembering. Take a deep breath and smell the smells. It’s amazing what the mind remembers when we do this..Mindfulness attention to our surroundings keeps any traveling or life in general,exciting and interesting !

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  15. Genny Campbell

    So, this is actually what of the greatest things I have experienced from doing BLE. People will often ask me how I can be so restrictive with my eating. They will tell me it won’t last and that it’s not emotionally healthy to be this way. I have found just the opposite. I have know made it through 2 Christmas seasons, a vacation to Ireland, and a recent vacation to Disneyland all without breaking any lines. I found that all of these experiences were much more enjoyable without sugar and flour because I was enjoying everything else that wasn’t food. I found that my addiction to sugar caused me to not appreciate and experience life to the fullest. In the recent case of Disneyland (we just returned home this past Sunday), I remember the last time I was there 2.5 years ago, I was miserable. I had a big rash on the inside of my thigh. I was exhausted. I was embarrassed because I felt like I wouldn’t fit into some of the rides, but I enjoyed all the NMF I could get my hands on. This time, I ate only healthy things and I did not partake of any of the fin NMF. I had the best time! I could run arou nd the park, fit on the rides, enjoy the music and the sights. Disney in a RSB is the most amazing thing ever! Thank you Susan foe explaining the science behind this experience! I absolutely love this!

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  16. Shelley

    As usual, your words of wisdom can be applied to each day……..not only to a vacation mindset. This has reinforced my desire to mindfully redirect myself, whether in a social situation with food, or whether alone at home feeling bored and restless. Thank you for these weekly tools.

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    1. Bright Line Eating

      Shelley, that’s a beautiful thing to consider: the alone at home feeling bored and restless moments. We can be mindful and alerts in those times too.

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  17. Naomi Arimura

    As a Tokyo-ite I would regret the notion that people should eliminate the Japanese food experience, which tends to be of very high quality and might inform future choices. At the moment I am undergoing cancer treatment and have lost a mass of weight so my own bright lines have moved drastically into almost reverse from when I was trying to lose weight. That is just an aside, I am wanting to say that my own problem in dealing with planning and bright lines in Tokyo is how to cope in a country where eating out is the norm and because eating is very much a shared experience, weighing and measuring presents a problem. Good veggies though, and tofu varieties. Beware of “No, there’s no meat in that, those bits are ham.”

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    1. Sharlene

      Naomi, I’m so sorry you are having to experience cancer treatment at the moment. I hope it all goes well and you are recovering quickly. <3. Thanks for posting the quote 'There's no meat in that — those bits are ham.' I lived in Japan and it's so true. Made me smile tonight. Take care.

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    2. Bright Line Eating

      All the best to you in your recover, Naomi! Sending love and healing thoughts to you! <3

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  18. Maryann Conner

    The guy in the gorilla suit video was one of a few videos our professor showed us in college (criminal justice major). It was fascinating! The videos demonstrate how eye witness testimony is very unreliable, and as reasoning in why police lineups of suspects resulted in so many people being wrongly accused. Great vlog, thanks!

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  19. Elizabeth

    I recently travelled for over a week in which three days were a seminar. I booked a hotel with a kitchenette and brought a cooler and my own pantry bag of food for the week, including packing my lunches. I stayed in for lunch with a vegan who had also packed. Everyone else ate out. They gorged on NMF famous in the area and literally wouldn’t let me come along at dinner time for the company if I wasn’t eating this NMF. The next day they all complained about how food hung over they were and how badly they had slept and how their focus was off for the day. This was an energy healing class!! I can’t imagine an energy healing class where the instructor went out and drank themselves into a hangover and then taught the class, yet this happened again and again with the food. I always felt great and had a lot of energy and happiness to start off my day, although I had initially felt left out. In the end I felt really satisfied with my experience and found that while others hadn’t felt good enough to go out and explore the non-food aspects of the city I had discovered gold mines of interesting things related to what we were studying because I had been open and eager for it, not focused on the NMFs the others were. I do feel like they missed out. I am really happy I have done BLE and am sticking with it. I am almost to goal weight, but this just underscores for me the importance of sticking with the lifestyle. I am not missing things, I am experiencing more!!! And I am thrilled about it!! 😀

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    1. Bright Line Eating

      This right here Elizabeth: “I’m not missing things, I am experiencing more!!” THAT is perfect!

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  20. Sharon

    Hi Susan,
    Thank you for sharing g this, it was very helpful. I also struggle with feeling like I am reducing other people’s enjoyment of their food if I don’t participate in eating the special food with them,. How can I stop feeling like I am spoiling my friends and families enjoyment?
    Thanks, Sharon.

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  21. Janice Bright

    This Sooo makes sense Susan! Thank you a million times over. Of all the videos THIS one. I’m at 10 to the nth! I never thought about how that awareness would go from everything to super heightened on the “food” because that’s what I do, every time. And your description of how you feel when you lay your head on the pillow…exactly… My brain just clicked. I’m happier when lines are bright, home and on a trip. Not missing out. New way of thinking, yes! Easy, no but it helps to think about it like that.

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  22. Rhonda

    I saw that gorilla video several years ago and it blew me away that I didn’t see the gorilla because I was concentrating so hard on counting the ball passes. Here’s what I think now. We all have a story in our heads about how life works, based on what we have learned and experienced. We take in the world according to how it fits or doesn’t fit our story. If the story is about counting ball passes, we’re not going to take in the gorilla. This is perhaps one reason why eye witness accounts of an event are so notoriously inaccurate, and each will differ wildly from the others–people are perceiving only what fits their story. I agree with the person above who said meditation teaches us to take in the moment. Over time we learn to distance ourselves from the story so that we can perceive more clearly what is actually happening, separate from the story. This can enable us to change parts of our story that are not working for us.

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  23. Roberta Walters

    Love your hair. 😉

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  24. Kimberly L. Pritchard

    I have had 2 solid BLE holiday seasons and a couple of small trips away from home. I have found that the only thing I miss out on is REGRET. Freedom tastes soooo good. Thank you Susan for all you do!

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  25. Camille Mcdaid

    Thank you Susan, exactly what I needed to hear! I am leaving on Sunday for 2 weeks to visit family in England. I have been thinking about the missing out and not partaking in eating and drinking at the usual places we would go for entertainment. The penny has dropped, I need to change my focus, it’s not about the eating and drinking. Thank god my husband is supportive and will help me on this holiday. I am already thinking about how to organize my food and have my emergency plan.

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  26. Sarah

    Excellent information Susan! Traveling is my work life and my leisure life, so I am often daily having FOMO sabotaged meals and days— sometimes it is more than I can struggle against in the moment… but I really can see how this over focus on food has been my challenger. My Bright est days don’t make me feel the FOMO and it is heartening to hear that this has been kind of a self fulfilling form of sabotage that I can break free from… I love the idea of staying centered and clear in the midst of new experiences!!

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  27. Mary Wemple

    Loved this Susan

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  28. Sue Ackerman

    I am currently residing with a Costa Rican family up in the mountains about 4 hours out of San Jose. I am staying with this family for another 10 weeks because I will be teaching English. I was determined to stick with by Bright Lines so I told them that I was gluten intolerant (which I am) and I don’t eat sugar.( I should mention that this family owns a restaurant and bakery on site.) So what is saving me? The fact that I committed ahead of time and it takes all the pressure off me. So now, the Mama tica knows that I don’t eat those foods and of course I want to keep my integrity so I do not eat those foods. Getting enough vegetables has been a problem, but now I am making big salads everyday and the family is starting to enjoy having these salads also. The next thing is that I want to show them how to make a great oil and vinegar dressing.
    I am not weighing but I have a pretty good idea of my portions now and am not going crazy with anything.
    Thank you Susan for this program. It is the first time I know that I can get to my right size body after years of yo-yo dieting.

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    1. Bright Line Eating

      Good for you Sue! Committing in advance was a great approach! Enjoy your stay! <3

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  29. Bettie Banks

    Beautiful informative lecture. You are an exceptional teacher.

    Thank you,
    Bettie Banks

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  30. Shari Macdonald

    My best vacation ever happened over New Years. My lines were bright and I ate out 2 meals a day. We were gone from home for 5 days and I was on the 8th week of bootcamp for our vacation at Universal Florida. I have never been more present and at peace 9n vacation. I’d looked at restaurant menus beforehand so I’d knew where to get BLE meals. I let go of perfection and armed myself with a good plan and automaticity. Had the best time and lost 2 lbs!
    Thank you Susan for your insight. It is always so meaningful in this journey for me to have the Science surrounding these issues!

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  31. Yaprak

    This really makes great sense, but how about the missing out that comes from weighing and measuring during travels? Let’s say I arrive into this island or small touristic town with family and friends, customs don’t allow fresh produce from different countries, there’s no fridge I can access, other people I travel with order sandwiches or tacos or whatever is available there locally and easily, maybe grab snacks to skip some meals, and I’m trying to find fruit and vegetables, 3 times a day. Constantly separating myself from the group and from what locals eat. I do that a lot, and takes quite a bit of my attention. Could you talk about this? Thanks for all that you do—your name regularly gets jotted down on my gratitude journal!

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    1. Bright Line Eating

      Also, Yaprak, one of our coaches was able to take a look at your question!

      A few ideas: The lay of the land from the perspective of BLE is that it takes what it takes to live Happy Thin and Free. We do what we need to to have our Food Freedom, focusing on social connections in lieu of the chronic focus on food as the ultimate uniter. Still acknowledging that this can sometimes be a challenge while honouring the path that you have chosen. Make sure you’re getting lots of BLE Tribal Support. Also, regarding sandwiches and tacos, order those without the tortilla or bread and request extra veggies!

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  32. Ruth

    Such good advice and it makes good sense. I enjoy your blogs.

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  33. Carolina Nikolic

    Hi Susan, thank you for such a timely vlog! I am getting married in September of this year and we’re planning a honeymoon in Scotland. I’ve been worried for a while about PECS rearing. It’s ugly head after the wedding itself (getting into the dress I want is definitely a motivator for me), but I’m also worried about how I’ll be able to eat properly on the trip and not feel as if I am missing out of the experience. The good news is that my fiancé is very supportive of my bright line lifestyle, and doesn’t feel as if we have to do/eat everything together. Thanks for helping me reframe what will be, I’m sure, a wonderful experience!

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    1. Bright Line Eating

      Congratulations Carolina! All the best to you in your upcoming celebrations and travels. How wonderful you’ve got a supportive partner.

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  34. Alexis

    Wonderful blog. Really needed that reframe. Plus your hair looks so pretty!!!!!

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  35. Shauna

    Excellent! So we’ll put. So very true!

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  36. Fay Thompson

    Thanks for this, Susan. I love it when you share scientific data and describe the experiments rather than just state the findings. I was stunned by the ones you describe here, but very grateful because when I explain to people that I’m off sugar and flour for life, they often comment negatively. Now I have a perfect counter comment for them as well as plenty for me to reflect upon.

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  37. Fiona

    Just been away for a few days as a surprise for my birthday. I manically packed my essentials for meals nuts seeds and vegan protein knowing that everything else I could obtain. I was not concerned about missing out only keeping to my plan. TBH I was pleased to get back to my routine, and celebrate homemade plant based meals!

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  38. Sasha Li

    Food is super important part of Japanese or for that matter any culture
    Your blog show to me that you missing out on huge part of Japanese culture but you are busy lady running your multimillion dollar enterprise on weight loss
    Yes Japan offers lots of other experiences apart from food but at some stage you get hungry during the day and you have got to eat and during this hunger ( intense hunger) you would want to eat Japanese food as no other food is available to you around and you are overseas without your local supermarket and convenience of your home with familiar food and fridge and other things
    You are in the middle of Japanese metropolis where all you can see is people devouring carb rich food loaded with carbs sugar flower etc etc
    And at this instant all your attention focuses on just one thing and one thing only: FOOD!!!! No other things matter anymore : museums culture buildings atc etc are all gone!!! The only thing remained is food. And lot of it!!! So you decide ok I will limit my food consumption with veggies and protein win mthout flower carbs and sugar but once you are inside this place with people enjoying their bowls of miso ramen udon etc etc – I think feeling inside you would be very similar to a feeling of the nazi concentration camp inmate- you just would want to shovel inside you anything you can lay your hands on!!!!! Country couture don’t matter anymore … you are hungry and tired from all day walking around say Tokyo and you want to satisfy your hunger!!!! So your nice talk about these stupid research somebody did somewhere and this gorilla man etc just doesn’t make sense anymore- you become an anymal with hunger and you want not just satisfy your hunger but also enjoy taste texture flavour smell etc etc – everything and you have money to satisfy all these requirements!!!!
    Have you ever seen documentaries of liberated prisoners of war during second war getting fed by soup kitchens?!?!? Please go and see at least one of these movies and then try to apply all your science to these hungry people!! These people would eat raw meat of dead horses!!!
    So I think BLI would fail completely in Japan after one full day of walking and having empty stomach and be surrounded by this tasty Japanese food everywhere…
    You are wrong Susan and you misled this lady going to Tokyo!!
    She will have either suffer hunger or eat some crap food just to feel the stomach and stop craving and no other things around her would compensate for real carb rich Japanese food!!

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    1. Jane S

      Sasha, I hope you can read into my reply the kindness I intend. My take away from the vlog was that we can change our perspective when we travel. Everyone has to eat and the woman going to Japan will, of course, eat Japanese food. I don’t think Susan was suggesting the woman take or find only American/Western food while she was there. There are many kinds of Japanese foods that are BLE friendly and a person could easily eat quite satisfactorily without having to go hungry or breaking bright lines. What she can do to not feel like she is missing out on things is to shift her focus and perspective. Instead of saying “oh no, I’m missing out on something because the food doesn’t fit in with BLE”, she can say “oh wow, this temple/museum/tour/etc. is fascinating and I’ve been so lucky to experience it”. The food becomes a secondary thing that just happens instead of being the primary focus of the trip.
      This is just what I have taken away from Susan’s message this week. I’ll be traveling to another city this coming week and I have been very much focused on what we will be eating, where we’ll be eating, trying out local favorites, deciding if I’m going to break bright lines or not and everything else connected to FOOD!! I look forward to using this shift in perspective to enjoy the city even more than if I went thinking about what I was “missing out” on because I follow BLE. I will eat at local restaurants (probably twice a day) but the food won’t be my focus. The trip won’t be about “what food delicacies do I have to try while I’m here?”, it will be about seeing the culture, visiting museums, shopping at the West’s largest bookstore and so many other experiences!!
      I hope you can see the vlog in a different way. Not as restricting one single experience (the food) by not eating certain food but enlarging every other experience by focusing on everything else.

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  39. SASHA Li

    Just. Small addition to my message above:
    I don’t have a PhD from the uni like you do so you are pub iously supereducated lady but I know what real hunger is and what it feel like to be in a foreign city tired and hungry
    Not sure if you have this experience but I do and I cannot see this lady you advices to start feeling little plastic boxes at the hotel room with BL FOOD PORTIONS AND satisfying BL requirements… I just cannot see it’s happening
    By my comments I will probably attract a shower of detrimental and maybe rude comments from your protectors followers etc etc
    But I really don’t care as it’s my personal experience based on my life and I think you misled this lady who is going on nice holiday to Japan
    She must enjoy it and food is part of this enjoyment unfortunately….and nothing can compensate it ever…
    This lady will suffer or may suffer as a result of your advice and it is not really necessary…

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    1. Bright Line Eating

      Hi Sasha! Your comment is certainly welcome here too! Jane S had some great thoughts above, check out her response. The idea is to not make food the main event of the trip. We often get so burdened by the food that we can’t see the beauty of what’s around us. Susan’s advice is to focus on the experiences as the main event. Starvation and hunger between meals are a bit different, but you’re absolutely right that sometimes we get so hungry that we throw out all our good intentions. That’s something to keep in mind as we plan our meals for the day. Thanks for sharing your thoughts Sasha!

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    2. Sharona T

      Dear Sasha and whomever is going to Japan,

      As a former Tokyo resident for 10 years, I can assure you that there are many markets selling a wide variety of fresh produce, as well as many healthy vegetarian, tofu, and fish dishes available. Sashimi (sushi without rice) is always a good option, and the Japanese are fanatical about freshness. You can find many freshly prepared foods in very small quantities in the markets, as the traditional Japanese meal includes rice, miso soup, fish or other protein, and several small vegetable dishes (my favorite is steamed spinach with a sesame sauce). There are some common Japanese dishes made with flour, including udon, ramen, okonomiyaki, etc., but there are so many other things to enjoy that you won’t miss them.

      I agree that food is a part of any foreign culture, but I believe that a sensible BLEater can focus on the total experience and the people around them, and still find ways to eat healthy BLE foods in BLE quantities.

      Enjoy Japan! It is a wonderfully different country! And don’t miss the museums and galleries which are often on the top floors of department stores.

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  40. Jane S

    The timing on this is perfect!!! My husband and I are going to Portland, OR to celebrate our anniversary this coming week. I’ve heard all about some of the food offerings that I ‘have to try” while we’re there. I was struggling with how to enjoy some of the offerings without going to bed feeling gross physically and beating myself up mentally for breaking lines. I want to keep my lines bright and now I have the shift in perspective to help me with that!! I know there are tons of great places to eat where I can get BL meals, there are lots of healthy grocery store options. I don’t have to miss out on the food culture, I just need to make the right choices and focus on the other things Portland has to offer!
    Thank you so much!!!!

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  41. Annette

    A huge Thank You goes out to Susan for this vlog, and to everyone who has commented. As a psychologist doing outpatient psychotherapy for a living, I have of course been aware of the literature on mindfulness meditation helping people with many kinds of mental health struggles, and I have suggested it to my clients. Because of all of you, with your explanations and observations, I now have a much better understanding of why and how the practice of mindfulness (I.e., training the brain to focus on the present moment) will help people shift focus not only away from food, but also away from ruminations on worries about the future, regrets or resentments about the past, negative views of self, all of that thinking that leads to, and adds to, anxiety and depression.
    I have learned so much from following you, Susan, and the rest of your BLE “family, for a couple or 3 years now and so appreciate all you freely give of your knowledge and experience. Know that you are reaching so many more people than sign up for or purchase your programs, and I am so grateful for you!

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  42. Michelle

    Freedom is… focusing on what I have and have been given instead of what I don’t have or what is not good for me. No matter what city or part of the world I am in. I choose to focus on my surroundings and eat what I need to live which for me, is BLE compliant foods since I have lost 42 pounds and half way to maintenance. I wish I was a 1 on the susceptibility scale and could eat anything I want wherever I go, but sadly I am not but have found a way to be happy, thin and free anyway!

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    1. Bright Line Eating

      Love this line, Michelle: Freedom is… focusing on what I have and have been given instead of what I don’t have or what is not good for me. <3

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  43. Netta

    Great vlog Susan! I am also a teacher, and I had the experience one time when I was pregnant and had to be on preventative leave… Another teacher replaced me, and she told me that not all of my students realized that it wasn’t me teaching them… for like 2 weeks!! Crazy!
    The other thing is that I am traveling now, and I’m enjoying the local dishes (I am a 3 on the susceptibility scale though), which sometimes means looking and smelling them and and reading up on the ingredients and such… and as you say, concentrating on all the aspects of the culture, not just solely focusing on *eating* the food (and then feeling bad/guilty about it). As for that sensation of hunger, unless I haven’t actually eaten anything at all for 3 or 4 days (which so far has never happened to me, not even for one day), I don’t ever get that pressing, urgent feeling of “I’ve *got* to eat now and anything will do if it will tame my hunger”. Maybe it’s because I eat enough good fats and protein and have done for years…? That is a great feeling of freedom! Pressing hunger is now a vague and distant memory from my processed carb days.

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    1. Bright Line Eating

      Now THAT is crazy Netta! So many questions! How is that even possible? 😉

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  44. sharon

    Susan – Have you heard of the Highly Sensitive People? I wonder if we tend to notice more. Also people with PTSD who become hypervigilant. Just wondering. Good thoughts on not missing out!

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  45. Cara Pollard

    Thank you so much for this! I am about to go to Paris with my sister and her family and was thinking about this very topic. So thank you!!!
    Cara

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  46. Robert Roepke

    Interesting that you started smoking at 15. I did too but I continued smoking 2-3 packs a day until age 55. I was totally addicted and quit one Friday morning in May of 1991. I have not indulged again except in my dreams. For at least 15 years I would dream very vivid dreams in which I smoked. And after waking, I could not tell whether I actually smoked or it was just a dream! I subscribe to the Freudian interpretation of dreams as wish fulfillment so i was aware of the substitution implications. I am now into the 28th year of abstinence but still occasionally expect to dream about smoking.

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  47. Micahela Louw

    Hi Susan, Thank you so much for this. My husband and I moved to Canada just over a month ago for a six month temporary study trip, and the biggest fear I had, was that this life experience would not be enjoyed at its greatest potential if I wasn’t experiencing the food. My saboteur managed to convince me the above was true and I ended up down an ugly spiral of cravings, self-resentment, guilt and shame. The cold, snowy weather as well as the new experience of life away from family and known friendship circles all contributed to the downfall. It felt as if I was beyond repair and instead of reaching out to my community, I continued in the vicious cycle. I started over about two days ago and couldn’t believe it when I saw this vlog topic today. WISH I had listened to it before because your scientific explanation makes so much sense to me. It’s all about mindsets and perspective! But I guess some of us need to learn the hard way sometimes. Thanx again for the encouragement! Just after two days of squeaky clean lines, I can already feel the lightness- that peaceful joy- of eating only on the plan. I look forward to the next few months of relishing rather in the thrill of ice-skating, forging new bonds with amazing and inspiring new people, reading a good book or standing in awe at the beauty of the Canadian nature and so forth and so forth…

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    1. Bright Line Eating

      Happy for you Micahela! You’re navigating difficult things and you’re doing it! Your plan sounds perfect! Enjoy your stay. <3

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  48. Stefi

    Super vlog!! Love the topic & explanation . Love your hair & ble dress along with the backdrop 👍😘

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    1. Stefi

      Oops! meant blue dress Happy Valentines Day Susan ,to you & your family 🥰😍😘

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  49. Lorri

    Cruise to Mauritius 2019/2020. Cruises to Mauritius are from Durban to Port Louis harbour. There is only one option on the horizon at the moment: MSC Orchestra: 28 Dec 2019-8 Jan 2020:- Durban, Port Louis (Mauritius), La Posession (Reunion), Durban . This is a popular cruise, and fills up fast.

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  50. Marsha

    To build better habits, you should understand how your brain reacts to your behavior. When we are pleased by the results of an action, dopamine is released, which makes us feel good.

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