Harm Reduction

As an addict in recovery, I usually don’t think it’s a very good thing when I find myself using one of my vices…but in this week’s vlog, I talk about an exception I’ve discovered to that general rule.

 

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  1. Ann

    hi Susan!
    Don’t have time to listen to the entire vlog now. I just listened to a minute or two. But I want to say that I LOVE your longer hair-do! I am one of the minority who chimed in that I like you in long hair, as you look soft and feminine (though you are beautiful either way!). Just wanted to compliment you!

    Also want to let you know that I am in week six of maintenance, and THRILLED that I am maintaining my weight loss (80 lb total/37 lb with BLE)!!! Honestly, I am finding the food to be too much many times! And I still have one more grain to add. I am going to follow your plan as laid out for eight weeks, then may tweak according to what works best for me (I may add an additional fat rather than grain). I have been able to do this by reading your book and other materials, watching your vlog and intro videos, and doing the 14-Day Challenge. Your program is healthy and sound, and the results are amazing!!! Thank you!!! 🙂

    God bless!

    Ann in CT

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  2. Susan

    I always enjoy your blogs and they sure give me things to think about. Thank you.

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  3. Stephanie Molnar Mowen

    I found this interesting! I knew a man in one of my old AA groups who used to say, “I will deal with my addictions in the order in which they are killing me.” He would always say this while working on his third giant mug of standard AA coffee! I watched my alcoholic father “step down” from a gallon of Ernest and Julio Gallo to a gallon of ice cream each night. When I got sober, I remember my first food hangover (after a meal of biscuits and gravy, pancakes, and mashed potatoes). And I, too, have used the phrase, “I have other things to use.” (“Your cheese habit did not wind you up in the slammer,” another friend used to say.) But it is a very fine and sometimes too-blurry line for me. I spend too much time subbing out different forms of food (which probably runs into the “insanity” of the food addiction). But I do appreciate the concept and feel its important to know and clarify what we’re working on at any given time. It is also a kind of reminder that we are all different–what works for one may not work for another. That’s that “wisdom to know the difference,” I guess! Thanks for going out on a limb and sharing this one, Susan! Take care.

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  4. Constance

    Ok, have to admit I have been having a rough time with BLE lines lately. Been upset and stressed and that has lead me to binge eating again. HELP! So the other day, I was having a terrible day and went for a walk. Wanted chocolate in the worst way. Ended up not getting chocolate, but in Sephora buying $100 worth of lipsticks.
    EEEYYOOOW. Not the best harm reduction but I did not eat the chocolate.

    Seriously tho, I need to get my sh@@t together and thing about this VLOG and how I can assimilate it into my psyche, because like I said, I am going off the rails.

    Btw, Susan… I love the new blue background. Liked the red fine, but this blue sings to me.

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    1. Becky

      Hi Constance, I don’t know you, but am so familiar with the obsession. And your words cracked me up! And new lipstick, just in time for the summer solstice!

      I had really good Bright Lines while I did the 2 week challenge. Hard time since then & I just took the plunge for the boot camp. I know I cannot do this on my own. And after 35 years of food addiction, the “this too shall pass” isn’t cutting’ it.

      Rock on girl, you’ve got this : ).

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  5. Deborah Michel

    This is timely for me as I was thinking today about really figuring out what would be a better way to deal with my emotional eating habit. I haven’t figured it out. I’d love to hear what others are doing. I did notice that when I’m actively engaged with others I don’t reach for extra food, and when I do eat a meal, I’m not tempted to overeat. The problem time is when I’m home by myself. I’m an introvert, and really need time alone to restore my energy, but that means I’m often home alone when strong emotions hit me and I want to reach for something to fill me up. I’m in therapy, and actively working on emotional issues. I’m curious as to what is helping other people.

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    1. Lynn

      Hi Deborah. I am a 60% / 40% extrovert/introvert personality. Like you, my challenging time is when I am home alone. Somehow, being alone then seems to equate to being alone forever, or indefinitely. But we know that’s not true! It helps me, when it comes to eating at night, to think about what I want to see on the scale the next morning, and what I want my life to be like the next day. So at some point I think we need to pack ourselves up to bed, and have our 12-13 hour fast between meals, and see what our bodies are providing for us the next day. Filling ourselves up at night with NMF and NMD doesn’t get us to where we want to be. Even if that is as superficial as what the scale says, that can help you stay the course. Good luck.

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    2. Joy

      Hi Susan
      Interesting topic today. You mentioned that your husband mind when you use men for “zing” so I just wonder if you feel the same way when he does the same thing with other women. Sounds like you are probably okay with it.

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      1. riadh ghanma

        great comment

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    3. Summer

      There is always Netflix and a cup of coffee or tea! Usually works for me!

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  6. Carla

    I loved this vlog! This could really work for me, I am going to put some serious thought into this. Thank you

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  7. Christine Riederer, Ph.D.

    LOVE your Harm Reduction Vlog. Thank you for all you do.

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  8. Ronna Berezin

    And it probably wouldn’t bother you if you found out that your husband’s being ok with your weakness for other men is bc it frees up his conscience about being with other women!!

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  9. James Young

    Please have your vlogs transcribed. I know i’d enjoy reading them.

    BLE is not only the most effective eating plan I’ve ever tried (91 days in). It’s the most effective personal development plan of any kind that I’ve ever tried.
    And I feel compelled to say – it’s not support groups, affirmations, coaching, any kind of talking about it. And I used to talk my head off on other diets.
    It’s the science and simple rigor which grant blessed relief from cravings and harmful slippery slope self-talk.
    brilliant, brilliant, brilliant!

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  10. Nan

    Susan, I really liked your blog this week but really do wish you would say more about caffeine. I am ok, challenged, but ok with food bright lines but find the caffiene withdrawal to be very hard. I’ve been caffiene free for two months and I gotta say, it is really hard. I still fill like I have lost my spark. I have almost given up on giving it up, but keep reading the part in your book about “replenishing my dopamine receptors” and hang in there. Life has lost a lot of color though, and I have to admit that I used to drink quite a bit of caffiene. What’s your advice?

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    1. Suzi from Arizona

      Hang in there! It takes a while to get those receptors back in balance. If you were drinking lot of caffeine, 8-weeks is probably not long enough. The time to give caffeine another chance is after you stop saying you need it for your life to be colorful. That’s your addict talking. Keep your bright lines bright. You can do this!Sending lots of love ❤ from sunny Arizona.

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      1. riadh ghanma

        thank you

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  11. Leslie

    I can relate to this vlog very much. Growing up, I would try to keep my vices separate. I could smoke a cigarette or smoke pot or eat shitty food or drink alcohol, or consume caffeine, but never combining any of these, as otherwise I would feel sick.

    I’m much healthier now, but I do like to bring out a vice from time to time, just to shake life up a bit. Binge watching my favourite show or watching all the Star Wars movies or Lord of The Rings movies or Silence of the Lambs movies on a Saturday night is one I like to do from time to time. Going an entire day without doing something “productive” is another one I like to do once in a while. This is the small part of my brain that just wants to be lazy and not feel guilty about it.

    We are not robots, so allowing yourself these little indulgences, you know you can handle, makes life more interesting. I get you Susan. Good for you for indulging outside your boundaries while still staying in control. You should be proud of yourself.

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  12. Lavina Blank

    You look so much better with your hair growing out!

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  13. Lara

    Great vlog, Susan! I love your candid and sincere honesty! It certainly helps me to sit down and do a “think-it-through”! I find myself playing Spider solitaire on my phone or binge watching Netflix shows. I know I’m using them instead of picking up the food/drugs. I’m an addict. What can I say?!

    I also love your hair and the blue background. Keep inspiring us. And thank you!

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  14. Cindy

    Sounds like justifying, not harm reduction. Flirting with men is playing with fire. And this is the complete opposite of what you said previously about caffeine – that you can’t handle it. Disappointed with this one. Sorry.

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    1. Helen Spingola

      Inclined to agree with you…..I also am feeling disappointed with this blog…

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    2. riadh ghanma

      thank you, i am with you, its more like derailing from the brihgt lines

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      1. Scoop

        I agree…I thought this was an AWFUL vlog and a disgusting suggestion to solving an eating problem. Whether it bothers her or her husband is fine…what about the men to whom she is flirting and taking advantage of and the spouses/partners of these men…this was a truly disappointing vlog and an truly unprofessional suggestion…how did anyone in this company allow Susan to place this vlog out as appropriate behavior to an eating problem…I agree it is hugely dangerous…probably more so than the eating problem.

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  15. Suzi from sunny Arizona

    Regarding my moral compass and my addict: If I feel I have to ask permission (especially a gazillion times) then my moral compass is telling me that: I know it’s not right. My addict is telling me that’s alright to cheat if I get permission first. But the truth is that I am still compromising my morals. And it’s still cheating.

    That’s the way it is with me and my bagel. I know my bagel is a cheat. But once in a while I give myself permission to eat a bagel. Is it okay? Yes. Is it still cheating? Yes! Don’t fool yourself. Cheating is cheating whether you get permission or not.

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    1. riadh ghanma

      happy to see that others see it my way too

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  16. Roberta Walters

    You always make me laugh. …you are the best …thabk s for always being real and you 🙂

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  17. Mary Tullos

    You have totally thrown me on the men thing. Did I misunderstand what you meant?! Tell me I did.

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  18. Donnella Looger

    I had to listen to this twice to “get it”, because the first time my brain was saying “What??????”. I recalled a blog where you talked about being super attracted to a man and considering having an affair. So, when I watched this the first time, I thought “Susan is smarter than that, she’s deluding herself”. But even back then, you talked to your husband about it openly, shared it with the world…just met it head on.

    It is what it is. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I was being judgmental and needn’t have been. It’s denial that keeps us sick.

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  19. Brian N.

    Genuine and sincere. Really enjoy your vlogs. Thank you

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  20. Lonae

    You are such a great motivator to me. I have been watching your vlogs and i am really getting alot out of them
    Thank you so much

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  21. Lawrence Mills

    Hey Susan, love your vlogs.
    Tongue in cheek question.
    When you spent time in Australia, did those “B” Aussies pass on any strange habits, weird ideas about how the World should be changed?

    I’m an Aussie and I know at times we seem to have a different outlook on a lot of things.
    Just a fun question for you to think about and maybe answer.

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  22. Lauren Vollare

    This got me wondering about the premise that it’s essential not to give the brain highs in order for the brain to heal. Does getting a high by doing something benign still pose a problem because it keeps the addictive tracks alive and well in the brain? Any data on that?

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    1. Donnella Looger

      I wonder the same thing Lauren. I hope your question is seen and answered.

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  23. Stacy A Steck

    Love this one!! I, too, use caffeine and men to light up from time to time. Nice to know it’s not just me!!

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    1. riadh ghanma

      either you are on the bright lines or you are off them

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  24. Cherilyn

    Coffee is acidic and shouldn’t be promoted as healthy. Definitely should be organic because regular coffee is heavy on pesticides. I’d like to see the data that drinking water as your only source of liquids as being harmful. So much conflicting information from program to program – person to person – that is gets exasperating!

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    1. riadh ghanma

      any drink producer or drink promoter, would say drinking only water is harmful

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  25. Giovanna

    WOW! I so much hear you and feel releaved some way from what you shared Susan, it takes off the guilt from me and make me realise I do have the same “tools” as you somehow. THANK YOU!

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    1. riadh ghanma

      tools to slip

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  26. Barbara Dulong

    This week’s vlog came at a perfect time for me. I am a recovering alcoholic and addict (Sept 23, 2017 is clean/sober date). I am on day 352 of BLE, and day 72 of maintenance. I came to the realization that food is my true drug of choice, and perhaps booze and weed were substitutes…but I woke up Tuesday morning and told myself I was going to the beginner’s AA mtg that I attended religiously when I first got clean. (I no longer go to mtgs and I do not feel the desire to drink/use), but I realized since now I am in food recovery, I could possibly to back to my ‘substitutes’. So, I went to the mtg, felt the connection of fellowship and feel strong. I did hear in the meeting that nowhere but in those halls can we find the support and love…well, I beg to differ. The outpouring of love and support in this BLE tribe is such a beautiful gift. Thank you, Susan.

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  27. Nel

    Have you considered that the sex-addiction, men-addiction thing is a result of a ‘father wound,’ the divorce of your parents? It’s very, very consistent with how young girls react to a father leaving the home (not through death but voluntarily).

    By the way, isn’t it a bit inhumane to think of men as a ‘thing you can use’ the same way as you can ‘use’ alcohol or a drug? A human person is a subject with free will and dignity, not an object to be used for our personal pleasure – no? Is using men addictively for a ‘high’ not the same thing as using pornography (and thus women and men in pornography) as things to be used for a high?

    I’m disturbed by the speech referring to ‘things I use’ including human beings, because I don’t really see a difference between using a man (or woman) for some kind of ego boost or sexual high and using a person as a slave or in prostitution. All seem to me to be ethically inadmissible on the grounds that a human being is a subject with free will and inviolable dignity, while a ‘thing’ is an object to be used. Objectifying a human person for one’s own personal gratification seems to me always to efface the dignity and sovereignty of the human person, and degrade that person from subject to object (even if the objectified person willingly allows him- or herself to be so objectified: objectification is always a degradation from sovereign subject to object of use). And we know from the effects of slavery on slave-owners and pornography on porn-users that the user is always degraded along with the used person (the addict is the slave of the thing to which he is addicted, and thus no longer fully free and sovereign, for example). We can’t objectify people into ‘things to be used’ without also degrading ourselves.

    Rather a disturbing vlog, actually.

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    1. Helen

      Agree. Am quite disturbed re: this thing about using men…..And the fact that it doesn’t bother her husband?????

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    2. Niki F

      Yes, agree with this comment. I look forward to these weekly vlogs, but this one made me sad and a bit disturbed as well. 🙁

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    3. Stefi

      Whoa Nel… take a breath! Your points are valid IF Susan meant it as so ( face value) I believe its merely non harmful flirtingish talk , which a VERY self assured person & their mate/spouse can understand & let it be. Nothing more. I also believe her guy friends are also VERY self assured to interact as such. I think you put too much thought in this .

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      1. riadh ghanma

        devil comes like a non harmful flirting then shows its ugly real face, usually when it is too late

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      2. marryann

        I agree that this is very disturbing…few people like someone “flirting” with their spouse/partner…this is a horrible suggestion and terrible advice…while it may help Susan I can’t imagine any spouse/partner being pleased that someone is “flirting” with their spouse/partner…very, very dangerous territory. I do hope Susan comments on this video and considers the thoughtful feedback she has received from her BLE people. To suggest that being self-assured negates how dangerous “flirting” can be is preposterous, and, again, let’s assume it isn’t dangerous behavior for Susan (which seems very suspect give her admitted problems with addiction), other parties in these activities may not be as self-assured–spouse/partners of those involved–might react with rage, disappointment, feelings of betrayal, etc. Being a truly self assured person would be someone who didn’t need to flirt with men to ease a tendency to overeat, so, Stefi, this behavior appears to be a shocking choice and suggestion, and unbelievable unprofessional. What a disappointment! Again, I do hope that Susan addresses the thoughtful feedback she has received and can see how unprofessional this suggestion was.

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    4. riadh ghanma

      i like what you said

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    5. Seamonkey

      I absolutely agree!! You have articulated my feelings about this clog

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    6. Scoop

      Couldn’t agree more…this is a surprisingly awful vlog…I hope Susan replies to some of these comments about how truly unprofessional this suggestion is.

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  28. Pamela Cole

    Thanks for this potentially controversial vlog. I’ve quipped for years that the reason I’ve been clean and sober for 43 years is that I have so many other addictions that I can use before picking up drugs or alcohol! Over the years, I’ve come to let go of the most destructive ones (cigarettes, food, men) but I still have workaholism, obsession with hobbies and shopping. None of these cross the line into unmanageability, I’m just less prudent than others might think is wise or reasonable. When someone comments on how much I’ve spent for art classes, I respond that it’s not only cheaper than psychiatric hospitalization but a lot more fun!
    I think an important perspective for hardcore recovering addicts is finding a place between the depths of active addiction and an idealized perfect state. I’m always moving closer to an ideal but need to benchmark my gratitude on where I’ve come from. By all estimates, I should have died before 30 . Since I’m now 70, clean, sober, happy, thin and free and living to good purpose, I think I’m wildly successful! Thanks to a Higher Power and my Companions on the Path.

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  29. Tina

    Susan, Thank you for this topic. It is enlightening to analyze things that may seem obsessive/addictive and see are they really harmful? I find myself binge learning with health online a lot ( so many wonderful free online health seminars!), wondered if it was addiction/escaping from other things. To look at it, and ask is it serving me? my family? my patients? (I am a nurse) versus am I spending too much time learning? How am I balancing time with my loved ones? While it can be taking a lot of my time, I think being conscious and unplugging more frequently may serve me better at times, so I unplug. I do find I learn lots that helps myself, my family, and my patients, as long as I take regular time to unplug and spend time with my family. It is like anything in the end about balance. Thank you also for always being so real and honest about yourself, that is not an easy thing to do in front of so many!
    Take care!

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  30. Agnes Tan

    Dear Susan
    I came across you through listening to Ocean
    Robbins and have enjoyed all your talks on
    my e-mail. I appreciate your high qualifications
    and intellect. Love your longer hair – makes
    you very pretty
    I am 71 and a retired nurse with 2 nursing degrees .
    I came across this somewhere in the course of
    my studies and want to share it with you in case it
    can help others. With regard to smoking ( I only
    smoked 1 cigarette while training) and hated it so
    much I could never touch it. My father used to
    smoke a packet a day and was very healthy all his
    life, but he died of cancer.
    I notice people smoke when they are very stressed.
    They need some urgent relief and a cigarette seems
    to work. Many have tried to give up without
    success.
    I started sharing this idea. Not to stop! Say they
    were smoking 15 a day. Have those 15 a day for
    that week and enjoy them.
    The following week have 14 a day for that week
    And enjoy them. Keep reducing on this manner
    till they are down to 1 a day for that week, then 1
    every 2 days the next week and by this time they
    give up completely with ease. By reducing
    this way and enjoying the process they are
    Successful and don’t need to smoke and don’t
    like it any more. I have shared this
    With dozens of people and they all told me it was
    so successful and easy and they were all happy.
    I explained their stress was the trigger for
    smoking and adding more stress did not help.
    So that is why they were to enjoy the process.
    They all gave me feedback and were thrilled.
    When I am severely stressed I get out of the
    house, go to a nice cafe and enjoy coffee and
    A piece of cake and an hour of me time and that
    works wonders for me and it’s quick .
    It makes me happy to share this and save lives from
    lung cancer , especially men with young families
    they were so grateful as this worked and nothing
    else had.
    I have rambled on. I hope this may be helpful
    to others . Best wishes . Agnes Tan 🌺

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  31. monique

    love your authenticity… on day 3 of the 14 day challenge… so far so good.

    Thank you for expressing your commitment and contribution to the world and humanity

    M

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  32. Susan

    Hi Susan this is Susan! I joined the boot camp in October of 2018 and have listened to every vlog since and some of your previous ones. They don’t always hit on where I am but I always learn something about myself about others or about the subject on which you are speaking. I NEVER read the comments. Today for some reason I read the comments. This was not good for me. I almost took up an offense for you. So glad I realized what I was doing. I am so thankful for you, your journey and what you have created for us out of your journey. Thanks seems so small for all your sacrifices. My life has never been better and will only keep getting better as I continue my BLE journey. Blessings to you, your family and your team!!❤️❤️❤️❤️

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  33. Jaclyn Allen

    My mother got on the “wonder drug” for menopause when I was 15 yrs. old. It escalated to where she called it her “nerve pills”….I noticed the change in her but being a teenager, (late 50’s/early 60’s), I didn’t know much about drug addiction. It turned into a love/hate relationship between us. When I as nearing 45 yrs. old, I took up drinking, but could always stop. I was allergic to alcohol, (sugar) but not obsessed…however, I did go into a twelve-step program, (AA) for 30 yrs. Had sponsors, took the steps and didn’t drink….which brings me to now….I grabbed ahold of BLE and understood right from the beginning, what it was about. My experience with recovery groups which some turned into clicks…I stay away from. I read the BLE Book, joined the “14 day challenge” and the “Bootcamp” and have reached goal and stayed at goal now for 4 mos., (9 mos. on BLE program). I can’t say that my BLE lines are squeeky clean. From the start, I did do the measuring, and writing down my 3 meals the next day…however, have since stopped doing it as I found for me it was a bit stressful. and don’t write my 3 meals for the next day. I don’t get into my head or worry about the meals…I find, my Higher-Power works through me to create them as needed. What has helped me is the 5 yr. Journal/ personal journals, meditation and a “Higher-Power” from within. I post on a BLE FB group, a “BLE Instant Pot” group, and a “BLE recipe group all on FB and really enjoy it. As time goes on, I can let go of the rigid part of BLE. I’m not a drug addict or alcoholic, but am allergic to the sugar/flour. I was an “8” on the resistance scale. I’m more of a one-on-one type and can say I’m happy, joyous and free. Thanks for letting me share.

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  34. Johanna Ingalls

    Hi Susan,

    I’m in the transition phase and added caffeine back in during the latter part of weight loss. I also added cocoa powder with various spices, sometimes in hot water, sometimes in coffee.

    I’m curious if you make any distinction between caffeine in early recovery and caffeine after linger (a year or two, maybe) of abstinence ? I a.m. especially interested in a brain science perspective, ie neaural pathways & dopamine up-regulation,
    Thanks for all you do! BLE has changed my life, and I am so grateful! Thank you!

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  35. riadh ghanma

    I think the ruler you are using to measure susceptibility to food, is a broken one, from the middle, and the actual scale is 1 to 20, and you are a 12 maybe, because I know people, if they listen to your vlog of this week, the will slip and relapse, and maybe divorce their spouse, and do much more
    Use men thing, are we talking about denial here, you believe your great husband when he says, it is OK?

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  36. Michelle

    I couldn’t listen to this vlog all the way through — the comments made about flirting with men (as something you can use instead of food), and your husband allegedly being OK with it really disturbed me. Seriously, I had to stop listening after those comments. And I don’t think it’s as harmless a behavior as you make it out to be (it never is), because I recall a very somber, emotional vlog you did awhile back where Ocean Robbins and his wife had to talk sense to you to prevent you from doing harm to your marriage, family, and reputation. Susan, I think you’re a brilliant woman and what you’re doing here with BLE is a truly fine thing, but I think for your own good you need to re-think that particular behavior.

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    1. Stephanie

      Men may be more interesting to talk to but I have to agree with Michelle , Nel, Helen, and Niki.

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  37. JJ

    Whoa – I understand the concept of harm reduction and I understand you were trying to provide examples of harm reduction behaviors, but I think you missed the mark on this one. I going to clean it up and call it ‘flirting’ even though you called it ‘using men’ to get high. I think the addict part of your brain was talking big time here. It is never a good idea to ‘flirt’ for the ‘high’ it gives you.

    I would suggest you need to rethink this vlog and what you were trying to say. You are leading a lot of vulnerable people here. It could be interpreted, that you suggested, they could indulge in a risky behavior that can-n-will lead to a lot of heartaches. I am really disappointed where this vlog went.

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  38. Deanna

    I feel a little sick. You seem to be saying that your lines for “running energy”/flirting with men are solid and easy to hold in place. But what happens when they are not–for the man in question? Or for you? Using human interaction for a high is most dangerous because of the complex factors involved for both people. You never really know quite what you are dealing with on the other end. The man that seems to flirt back “harmlessly” one time may at another time have the beginnings of resentment toward his wife, discontent, anger, etc. that perhaps even he is unaware of. Will the flirting help or hinder that for him? It is often “unhealthy” emotional underpinnings that give flirting its biggest spark. It’s incredibly rewarding. . .but dangerous. And even if you want to believe it’s ok for you, how can you possibly have true assurance that you are not tripping up the men you flirt with? It’s like laying a foundation–that you have no intention of building on. But what happens when you find yourself in a season of discontent, insecurity, or boredom in your marriage? The foundation is there. . .building something on it becomes horrifyingly quick and easy.

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  39. Anna

    This vlog disturbed me.
    Usually I feel encouraged and motivated after listening to a weekly vlog..
    Harm reduction is a serious topic and it was not covered well. My bright lines did not stay bright after I listened to this vlog. There were some other issues in my life on this day so it was a case of bad timing, I just wish it was a vlog that I missed.

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  40. eg

    oooohhhh moralists … if you have been in the hell and you have survived and now you are out … then everything that implies harm reduction for oneself (managed with honesty/transparency, without harming anybody else !) is welcome! thank you susan

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  41. Christi Wallander

    I like your longer hair also…it looks really pretty on you. The added “men” comments in your vlog make me feel uncomfortable for you. I know it’s harmless…just is uncomfortable.

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  42. Carolyn

    Very disappointed in this vlog Susan. It seems you are trying to re-write your rules and move the goalposts! I am having trouble justifying some of your ideas lately and feel particularly uneasy about your reference to men. Especially when you are married with children. A very strange and unsettling blog for many of your Brightliners I should think. Although many of them seem to think your hair is more important. How can you honestly convince yourself that flirting with men outside your marriage is acceptable and will help with balance your food addiction?

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  43. Seamonkey

    I am appalled at that you are addictively using men for energy. It is completely sexist that when you teach out to women that is sinply reaching out to community, giving and taking support between people. I hope you can learn to view people who are men the same way.

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  44. Claire

    Thanks Susan, Had’nt thought much lately since joining BLE but did before like shopping which was expensive, your vlog ŵill cause me to check out my actions. Thank you for your up frontness and honesty.

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  45. Holly

    Fabulous vlog and soooo authentic! Really, what is the harm in a little flirtatious ‘zing’? Also, I’m so grateful that the brewed coffee in Whole Foods is directly following the baked goods/ dessert department. A bit of coffee immediately talks me off the ledge after walking thru cakes and cookies and breads. There’s my harm reduction!

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  46. Laura

    Wow! Thank you so much for being truthful and transparent. Especially regarding the “zing” with men. You open doors to let the rest of us walk through safely.
    Grateful to you for showing us that it is ok to take the plunge and reveal ourselves. I learn and grow every week because you teach us how to love ourselves.

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  47. sandra

    I’m curious why Susan doesn’t address the serious negative concerns about her video noting she uses men to help her with her eating addition. By not doing so, she keeps a lot of us just hanging there hoping she will address our concerns. The video has clearly spoiled the program for many of us. Please do respond on this cite, Susan.

    Thank you…I think we are hopeful that you will recognize how unprofessional it was and retract your encouragement (by role modeling this behavior) of others to use similar tactics.

    Please do respond. Thank you.

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  48. Raylin

    I’d rather be fat and faithful.

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  49. Liz Wilcox

    We do like our heroes to be steady up on their pedestals, don’t we? I know that I do! Susan, I am so grateful for your program. However, USING OTHER PEOPLE (men) to further our journey goes against my personal standards. In the same vein, I would love to be confident that no one I meet is USING ME to further their own journey. Sentient Beings vs Caffeine – not the same, in my opinion. On the other hand, Susan, I am not anyone’s perfect example of how to do a.n.y.t.h.i.n.g., and I appreciate your work!

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