Body Image and Weight Loss

When we lose weight, it can take some time for our self-concept to catch up with our new bodies.
Watch this week’s vlog to hear my thoughts on this perplexing topic.

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  1. Joan Meyer

    Susan, loved your inner work presentation! I did your fourteen day challenge…lost four pounds…however I noticed my lifelong need and use of bread as a foundation. And love of bread…which I bake as well. Will try to continue the challenge and await the coming of your book. Joan Meyer. St. Louis, MO

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  2. Dyanna

    This was helpful, but I have another question regarding body image that I hope you can address too. I am 67, and have been doing BLE for almost a year. I have lost over 70 lbs, in fact. Most of it in the first 6 months, and am so disappointed in how my body now looks. I am very flabby and have tons of wrinkles that I did not have before. And I have also been exercising consistently almost the entire time I have been losing weight. Any suggestions? Thank you for BLE. I do love the fact that I am healthy and working on the free and happy.

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    1. Trina

      Dyanna,
      I had this same experience when I lost a lot of weight years ago. I was actually much more self-conscious after the weight loss than I had been at 300+ pounds. This was part of what led me to gain nearly all of that weight back, which is how I found BLE. I think Susan would say that you have to give it time. I feel like losing weight makes me look older. Before I started the program I had to reconcile myself to that and promise myself that I would buy the good moisturizer. 🙂 It’s more important for me to get rid of back pain and be able to walk, so I’m going to focus on being healthy and trust my skin to catch up when it feels like it. Hopefully someone else has more tips, but give it time.

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      1. Jutta

        I look older as well . I will be 69 this week & now have a lot of saggy skin but I no longer have knees that hurt , my blood pressure is perfect & I have gone from a tight size 16 to a size 8 since Oct/16 . I also trust that my skin will catch up . I look good in clothes & since we seldom go around without them well……..Susan did a module on this . May be she could do a vlog

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    2. Patty

      I would also like to see an answer to this question

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  3. Julia Carol

    Susan, as usual you just nailed it. Thanks to Bright Line Eating, I am down 86 lbs from my all time high. Although I reached “goal” about six months ago, I’ve gone down in weight since then… and I’m still amazed when I try on clothes.

    You are changing lives, saving lives, saving families and bringing more love into the world. Not only that, you’re going to cut health care costs.

    OXO

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  4. Veronika

    It also helps to engage with your physical body, such as massages, putting lotion on, and the like. It helps your mind align with the “borders” of your body so to speak. There is a whole scientific book about it that I can’t remember what it’s called, but it’s quite fascinating.

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    1. Rene' Hawes

      if you ever think of the name of that book – PLEASE let me know. : ) I KNOW I rather LOOK old and wrinkled than FEEL old and wrinkled so I am going to loose the weight even if everything DOES sag. I am aware that at 67 I may not have enough elasticity in my skin to revive – look wise – but at least I will be able to hug my grandchildren with those flabby but stronger arms.

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  5. Leslie

    Exactly what I needed to hear just when I needed to hear it! Makes sense of some things that were totally puzzling me. Thank you so much for your radiant influence in my life Susan! ❤

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  6. Patty Hahn

    Hi Susan. I am on Day 7 of the 14 day challenge and was feeling very hungry and thinking of crossing my bright lines when I opened my mail and found the weekly vlog . Seems you are always available with encouragement. Since I began to get your emails in December, I am down 17 pounds. In the 14Day Challenge, you have answered questions just as I begin to wonder about something, like the how often to weigh thing! Amazing, inspired work. Thank you!

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  7. Juanita Peasnall

    Brilliant question! At one point due to emotional and physical illness I lost a lot of weight. I did not acknowledge this. Meeting family I hadn’t seen in about a year, they all began commenting on the weight loss. I can tell you, those words barely registered when the weight began to pile back on! More than ever as if Ihad to cover myself back up and hide! What is that fear? I am beginning the 14 day challenge in tears. Failure looms front and center! Thank you for your work and sharing the tools to succeed.
    Physically and mentally.
    Gratefully

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    1. Trina

      Juanita, I just want to give you a hug. So many of us in BLE have been in very similar situations and have very similar feelings. The thing about failure is that it doesn’t have to be final. Just “simply resume” as soon as you possibly can. And if you don’t resume immediately, then resume right after that, or right after that. It is never too late. You will succeed with BLE and people will notice and they will mention it. First of all, say “thank you” because they are trying to encourage you (always assume good intent), then tell them about BLE. You are a wonderful, beautiful person. Keep asking “What is that fear?” and keep pushing against it until it takes a back seat.

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  8. Peggy Dalrymple

    would love to know when the next BLHealing class will be offered again. Thank-you so much!!! Would love to partake in the course—
    Peggy

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  9. Jack Olsen

    I bought your book ( not the 14 day trial ) for my wife. She’s not yet ready for you. She still thinks her doctors are on her side subscribing many meds for her sugar dibetes and high blood pressure.
    I have on my own taken the 14 day bright line challange. 7 days in released 6 pounds. I hope that with your book I can convince her to try your program. Wish me luck.

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    1. Lynda Hahn

      I do hope Jack that she responds to your taking care of her health and wellbeing.
      Good luck

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  10. Mary

    I have noticed for the past several years that when I do lose weight and someone, anyone, notices, or says something to me about it, I immediately put the weight right back on. I don’t intend to, but for some reason, it happens. So, consequently, I hate for anyone to notice.. or say anything at all to me about it. If they complement me, or ask questions, or anything, just makes me feel scared or anxious… weird, I know, and a bit scary. I’m not unsocial nor am I shy, so I don’t understand it, and I feel like it’s out of my control. For example, I am doing the 14 day thing and on day 6 I had lost 5 lbs already, someone asked me about it and two days later, the 5lbs is back. I think it even happens when I acknowledge to myself about it! Any insight?
    Mary

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    1. Mariah Perkins

      Interesting! Good. Yes. Thanks, Susan

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    2. Mariah Perkins

      Sorry. Wrong place.
      Mary! Just checking…..Is it possible that you over-empower others? In order to learn detachment with love, and still have engagement, I had to go to Al-Anon. Still do.
      Good luck!
      With love,
      Mariah

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    3. Linda

      Hi Mary,

      I have the noticed the exact same thing about myself. I don’t consciously do it, but as soon as someone comments favorably on my weight, or weight loss, I put on a few pounds. So strange, yet it happens all the time, for years. What is that about????

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    4. Trina

      Mary, I’ve done the same thing several times. Before starting BLE I had to sit myself down and have a talk with myself.
      “If you do this and lose anywhere near the amount you need to lose, people are going to notice and they are going to say something.”
      “Yeah, I hate when that happens, it has set me back to square one in the past.”
      “So, how do you make sure it doesn’t set you back this time?”
      “Well, I have to acknowledge that they are trying to be helpful.”
      “That’s a start, what else might help?”
      “I have to be very self-aware and catch myself before I let it sabotage me. Instead of reacting with ‘oh crap, this is working and people are noticing, I’d better quit and hide’ I should react by taking it as proof that the plan is working and commit even more strongly to the plan.”
      “Yes! Let’s do this!”

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      1. Msry

        Thanks Trina!

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    5. Toni S

      I wonder if maybe you have aligned your success with the ability for others to notice? So when you get a comment, you have a sense of completion (that you’ve done it now and finished) so therefore you stop with the program? Does that make sense?

      You may need to reassign your success with something else – even if you weren’t aware you were doing this. Perhaps securely assign your success with a number or a goal that is far removed from what others think or say.

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      1. Jarka

        Good point Toni!

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  11. Melisa

    Susan,
    Thank you for the vlog. I have been experiencing this as well and have asked others about it but they interpreted it as I am saying I am fat which is not the case. I am within 6 pounds of goal and when I look in the mirror, I recognize I have lost weight and I am not just judging myself, I just couldn’t figure out why my mind still thought I was overweight. I also experienced the oppposite when I was younger and started to put the weight on, I couldn’t really see it in the mirror and my brain told me I wasn’t that heavy. Pictures of myself at that time is what brought the connection with my brain and my actual weight into focus. The insight that it takes awhile for brain to register made sense and makes me not feel the need to figure out why anymore. Thank you

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  12. Mary

    Also, is there anything we can do to maintain and keep our skin from hanging and sagging when we lose weight rapidly? I am just getting started with this and want to try some preventive measures now.
    Thanks!

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    1. Anne

      Hi Mary,

      I started BLE back in September when I heard about it from Dr Alan Christianson. I lost about 20 pound before I heard Susan’s vlog on this subject and went off track gaining 15 pounds back. I am just starting the 14 day challenge and this is a big concern for me. I have been using a home made Shea butter ointment that I put some Frankincense essential oils into. I have only used it on my face and I have not had any sagging, but have had a visible fat reduction on my face. I am worried about jowls on my face, but none so far. I am over 50 and have 80-90 pounds to loose. I will try the Frankincense essential in a carrier oil on the rest of my body when I start to have sagging skin. I hope this helps.

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      1. Anne

        Hi Mary again,
        I forgot the most important thing about maintaining tight skin integrity: Collagen. You can get collagen from making long cooking bone stocks or by eating unflavored gelatin or using Collagen Hydrosylate that you can get from Amazon.com or from greatlakesgelatin.com. I use collagen twice a day. As I stated above, my skin elasticity at this age would be very bad without it. I hope this helps.

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        1. Rene' Hawes

          Our skin collagen and the collagen found in gelatin are different chemically so our body may not be able to use the “pieces/ or amino acids” to re-assemble the gelatin into skin collagen we all want to build up or retain. It is a great idea though and would LOVE to hear if it is working for folks. ANOTHER note, I make my own gelatin (for low calorie protein with meals) because to my shock, if you read the labels of “ready-made” jello or the jello in the little boxes – there is little to NO protein IN THEM. I guess they are thickening with some other product now? But you can make your OWN jello with concentrated amounts of gelatin and get some very low calorie protein (and broken down collagen).

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      2. Msry

        Anne, thank you! It does help. And thanks for the collagen tip!

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  13. Jennette

    I have noticed that I just can’t see how much I need to lose. I get down 30 lbs or sometimes more and I feel like I have arrived… and have not! So I quit doing what I should and the weight hops right back on. I do not feel as big as I am, truly a strange mental block. I can see it when looking in the mirror, but don’t realize when just standing, sitting or moving around. I have been using a weird trick that has helped me be more conscience of my goal and the consistent effort that must occur to get there. I have a necklace I put on that is just has a simple charm “100”. That is the total amount of weight I need to lose to be at goal weight and when I put it on in the mornings, it is a commitment of following my bright lines for that day. It also reminds me that I am not done until that 100 is lost! It is on a fairly long chain and I can see it there as I eat.. I need that continued jar back into reality. Has worked so far wonderfully.

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    1. Trina

      I love this idea!

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    2. Rene' Hawes

      I have the SAME misconception about my size and even my appearance. I am SHOCKED to see the old fat lady starting back at me in the mirror. Isn’t that strange how our minds can do that? Your idea is great. Thank you for sharing it!!!

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  14. Lynda Hahn

    Wonderful and oh so true Susan. After being a Bright Line Eater for over 2 years now and having lost (as of today 115lbs) I can honestly say that I have a body sense that is real …I am very slender at 124 and 5’6-1/2″ . I thank you from the deepest part of myself. Love, Lynda .

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  15. Toni S

    If anyone’s struggling with their body image, I strongly suggest checking out ‘Embrace – the documentary’ or google the ‘body image movement’. Taryn has changed many thousands of lives and provides such an energetic and empowering view of how to accept the bodies we have. For those of us on a Bright Line Eating journey, this body acceptance needs to happen as a continual process as our body changes. Love to all xxx.

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  16. Anne

    Thank you so much Susan. I am on day two of the 14 day challenge and thank you so much for the video this morning! It is very helpful! I am starting with the 14 days, but have a long journey ahead of me. Thank you very much for Bright Line Eating. I can not wait to read your book!

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  17. Joanne

    Thanks Susan. I am also an FA refugee and have not yet found a safe weight-loss place to land. My sponsor dumped me because I disagreed with him. I felt sad of course but also relieved. FA felt like a burden not an asset yet I lost 18 pounds in a year. And stayed abstinent on their plan. What hope is there for me now? I’m still 14 pounds over my goal weight and feel lost but also determined to not return to FA. Getting to meetings in the freezing rain. (90 min) was a nightmare!

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  18. Irene saley

    When is the webinar?

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  19. Suzanne McMartin

    Hi Susan, I am on day 12 of the 14-day challenge and as other people have commented, you just nailed it! As my questions come up, by magic, you answer them. This is the comprehensive program I have been looking for. I don’t have a huge amount of weight to lose, but I do struggle with food addictions and lately, my eating habits were all over the map. Contrary to my expectations, retirement has made things worse because food is even more readily available and I have more time to think about and act on my cravings. My mother fought with her weight all of her life, but her love for rich and sweet foods made it terribly difficult to keep the weight off. Having seen her yoyo dieting, I promised myself to never become overweight, which I managed to do with exercise and sensible eating. But still, the cravings and the sense of having food control me rather than the other way around have been with me for years. I have been doing well so far in the 14-day challenge and I intend to continue until BLE becomes a lifestyle for me. Thank you so much for the videos and the research (I love finding out about the technical details!). Your coaching is exceptional!

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  20. Joy Schricker

    Great question and vlog! This is certainly an issue for me. I appreciate the heads up that it will take time and there is a way through. I’m still 100# away from goal weight but even loosing 25# I feel the imbalance, every time some one notices the weight loss. I still don’t really let their encouragment in, since I’m afraid of the sabby getting ahold of that info. Thanks so much for all your work and efforts on our behalf. You inspire me daily!

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  21. Cecilia

    I wish I’d known it before, but I guessed so. Image and actual size take time to come together. I’m in my 165 days of BLE and 30 on Maintenance, lost more than 48lbs. I still dream I’m overweigh and still avoid looking in the mirror. It’s a relief to know it will end as time passes. Thank you for explaining what happens in our minds.

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  22. Terry Brock Youngstrum

    For someone who’s always talking about ‘happy , thin and free… you rarely seem happy.. and you’re never free of your weird obsession with what your eating. You’re exhausting . Try intermittent fasting. Then you won’t be taking your scale to the restaurant.

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  23. Jenna C Reed Livingston

    Thank you, Susan.

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  24. Jocelyne

    Hi Susan….. I just finisched the 14DC and oh My God ! Did I appreciate everything I learned.. ! God bless you for this Great Work that you are doing. I see myself in your journey except the drugs and alcohol….. Thank God I did not fall into that…. but about Addictive to food I could be an 11 !!!

    I really really liked everything I learn….. and I promise Iam putting that to work…… I see myself so much in your story, except, I did not follow through with the idea of a book and even less a blog on internet….. I am 67 and I since I did not recovered completely of those cravings and binges, yes since 14 DC YES but the food thoughts are still there very present…….

    Since I live in Canada, when I did sign up for the 14DC I tought I was going to get the book…. So I ABSOLUTELY want your book, So could you tell me how much it would cost me if you sent it to Canada.

    If it is impossible, than I have a good friend of mine that goes to the States very ofen….may be I could ask her if I could have it delivered to her place in the States.

    I would also so much appreciate to TALK to you……. I do not want to leave my phone number on the blog, but you now have my e mail so may be we could connect. When I listen to your story, soul journey, everything it is like it would be me, except, I never really do anything,…. I could tell you my story, if we ever talk to each other.

    Thanks again for all this information, and all the good you are doing around the world…… I wish you ALL THE SUCCESS you deserve in this journey and with your book that I just can’t wait to read….. Take care and God bless you !!!

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