What Happens When You Get Near Goal Weight?

 
In this week’s vlog, I discuss one surprising thing that can happen as we near our goal weights in Bright Line Eating™.

Comments

  1. Ginger

    Thanks so much Susan. You always know just what to say to help us think about how we feel. I’ve got a ways to go, but this has been wonderful food for thought and preparation for when I get there! Happy anniversary! Keep up all the good work!

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  2. Terry Starr

    i am two pounds from goal weight. My face has more wrinkles! And I’m still flabby in the middle. I have looked forward to 131 pounds at 5 ‘ 1″ and if I can get there, part of me wants to stop forever. The weight loss is extremely slow, I feel deprived on this food plan, and I am not wanting to deprive myself any longer. Help!

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    1. Mercedes

      Terry, It is true that you feel deprived, but, in my case, I feel awsome, energétic, light, happy.. Concentrate on that feeling! Im sure that happens to you as well!

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  3. Terry Starr

    Does anyone ever get to goal weight, stay there for a while, and then start again?

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    1. Sue

      Terri, I empathise! I am 5’3″ and got down to 115 – 116 lbs. I discovered that along with the fat, I lost a great deal of muscle. But I still had stubborn fat around my belly that wouldn’t shift. People were begging me not to lose any more weight and I noticed that my face looked gaunt in the mirror. People’s comments do have an effect because over the Christmas/New Year period I found it really hard to stick to the bright lines. I now don’t seem to have the cast iron discipline that I have had all year. Consequently I’ve put on about 7 or 8 lbs and it seems to have all accumulated even more around my middle. Although I do look better in the face now. I’ve just turned 60, so I have an older face which probably looks worse after weight loss than a person who is younger. I think I need to find an exercise regime that works for me. I have always been unmotivated to exercise, but I know I need to gain some muscle back. If I could swap the fat for some muscle I would be happy with the extra lbs. I too find the strict weight loss plan unsatisfying now. So I need to experiment with the maintenance plan a bit more. All the best!

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      1. Sue

        Sorry Terry, I misspelled your name!

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  4. Margaret

    Thank you for your inspirational vlog. Listening to you gave me the clarity to set a firm weight goal for myself. I have been hesitant to do this, mostly because of past failures to reach and maintain goals, but also because of uncertainty of what it should be and past misguided and unrealistic advice about what I “should” weigh. Also, I’m a perfectionist and know that I’ve always been unsatisfied with my weight and figure at any weight, even when I can look back now with detachment and know that there were times when my weight was healthy but I could not see and celebrate that in my self-critical mode.

    So, here it goes. My goal weight will be 125 pounds. I am 5’3″. I am not as muscular as I once was, but I clearly remember castigating myself as soon as I started gaining over 110 pounds as I went through puberty and pretty much fighting my curves that came with puberty, instead of feeling more womanly. I never stopped the self-castigation since. I know I can be a very healthy 125 pounds, and I am eager to rebuild my strength and endurance. I will begin my transition to maintenance at 130 pounds. If I lose or gain a little, so be it, but my goal will stand at 125 and I will learn to maintain that, and celebrate that, without further self-recriminations.

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  5. Nancy

    Thanks Susan! I will NEVER firget a most poignant moment in my life in 1984. After having our 2nd child, I went on a strict diet that I did nit deviate from fir six months, & for the first time ever, I reached goal weight & was truly thin. I remember stripping down stark naked and telling my husband to look at me. I said, “I want you to take a good look, because this is as good as it’s gonna get.” Meaning: I’m never gonna look like Christy Brinkley. It was an important moment for me to learn to accept myself…warts and all! I didn’t get much response from my husband (I think he didn’t know how to resspond) but it was a moment I’ll never forget.

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  6. Melanie Webster

    I so very much appreciate Susan’s candidness, honesty and transparency. Love to listen to the weekly updates.

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    1. ronna

      Agree thoroughly with Melannie Webster! You have an amazing grasp of language!

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  7. Anne

    I have gotten to goal weight (120 + or – 2 lbs) at 5′ 5″ and definitely resonate with that self assessment that is happening! I have more wrinkles on the face and arms, and have not started exercising as I used to and am wondering if that process will smooth out some the overall look. I still have a small belly, and am ambivalent about getting lower to see if it will disappear. I definitely look better in my clothes and am happy with the feel of my body. I think some self love and congratulations to myself is in order. Thanks, Susan.

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  8. Sarah

    A profoundly honest answer that bears so much truth. I listen to you as I am nutritionist trying to help others with weight issues. But I know in my own body that when one part seems just right another seems too small…As an adult, I have always weighed within 98-105 pounds at 5 3″. I have learned that for most of us, what seems like that perfect balance between the upper and lower body, doesn’t exist.
    I have never heard this topic openly discussed. The reality that so many think that they will look like the “bikini model” when they are “thin” is so sad but true. Unfortunately, being thin doesn’t equate to what we really want to ultimately look like. I also hear many women say that being the weight they were when they were in their 20’s would just be too thin; when in truth it is all about a perception shift. This message was one of the best I have heard from you.

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  9. Patricia

    Whenever I lose weight my skin always wrinkles up a bit, but I still look younger in comparison to when I was fat. Somehow being large, swollen, and fat (even when my fat cells would even out my wrinkles) I not only felt older but also looked older. In our culture we are obsessed with wanting to look young. I much more celebrate and value being healthy and vibrant.

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  10. Andrea Driscoll

    I too think this has been just about your best vlog. I am not near goal weight but I just keep slogging along.
    However, I truly believe that happy/thin/free does not necessarily (or ever) mean perfect.

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  11. Deborah

    This is a very helpful discussion. I go back to gray sheet OA days and before bulimia had a name. As I have stayed thin for years but not free nor happy, the boot camp offered a full package that finally set me free. That said, I was already at my “goal” weight and heard Susan say that what’s true for many is they actually find a lower weight feels right. So I dropped lower but what happened is two old voices started chirping–anorexia and bulimia. This really scared me as like Gollum in Lord of the Rings, they are lethal. Fortunately, a close advisor challenged me as I had kept her informed of what I was thinking and I managed to recognize these voices for what they were–my nemesis. I am wondering if others who come from similar histories have encountered the same thing. The beauty and blessing of BLE is believing and experiencing that I if just stay in the lines and I can sustain a healthy weight…period. That is freedom, peace of mind, gratitude and joy all rolled into one. Thank you, Susan! Your story gives you credibility: your wisdom blesses all.

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  12. Phyllis

    So helpful. Thank you Susan.

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  13. Sharon

    Thank you Susan! You so beautifully articulated some of the issues that I have been struggling with. I have not been 120# since I was in my 20’s and once I was there, I just was so unhappy with my middle section. I was still in a size 10 pants! Others at 130-140 lbs. where wearing size 10. So I decided to reduce my goal weight to 115 and see how I felt. Once there I decided 110 would be my absolute bottom number as that middle is still quite full. I now see that 110 might not be the number that brings me the image that I have for myself. I am going to really pray and meditate around the peace of 110 and be happy when I get there, and humble and accept that goal. My goal is to reach 110-112#, learn how to maintain that range, and free myself up mentally to life… without the mental constraints of living bonded to uncontrolled food addiction (physically and emotionally). Thank you for the clarity around this issue. ” I so wanted to be a bikini model” but it will not be in the cards for me. So acceptance… yep. ODAAT

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  14. Judith Blasquez

    I reached what I thought was my goal weight about a month or two ago. I exercise quite a lot, so set a higher number knowing I had a lot of muscle. 5’4″ 135 lbs. I listened to what Susan said, and yes I am very critical of my body. I am not young, 72 years old, and have a lot of excess skin. My journey has been a long one. I started this in 2011. I have lost over 90 pounds.
    Most of it through exercise… a lot of exercise!! Just the last 35 lbs. with concentration on diet. I have learned this. Even if you go slowly and exercise, you will never achieve perfection. I am not even close. So, as Susan says, I am thankful for clothes. They really look good on me now. And I look pretty darn good for an old lady. I sure am glad to be rid of that unhealthy fat.

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  15. Kate

    hmm- you missed the mark for me on this one. the fat for me is a shield. Being fat for years has allowed me to let go of body issues – ie I am overweight and that is something changeable, I can explain my nonstandard shape because I am “temporarily” fat. Plus I can be invisible. However when thin, there is no fix for my body shape. I think others hit this wall as well. There is much less stress to be far from “perfect” than be close to your goal and realize you will not reach mental ideal anyway. These are still food obsession thoughts warped to body dysmorphic obsessions. I don’t think it is practical assessment on how many more pounds to lose or not and what to do with excess skin and stretch marks. Clothes don’t fix it.

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  16. Dorothy

    I agree with Susan that there is no “perfect” body (even photos of models get air brushed). As a nurse, I cared for a tiny, thin Chinese elderly woman who was very thin and trim, except for some belly fat and fat on the upper arms. I was so grateful for this because she needed to be given some medication, and it had to be administered in body fat. I believe this is fat our body holds on to for emergencies! I also have a sister who was at a very attractive weight, but she didn’t like the fat on her upper arms and the small but definite “saddlebags” on her upper thighs. Her doctor told her that unless she was starving, that fat was going to stay. She opted for surgery to remove that fat, but no one else really noticed or cared except her.
    I know the only time I was happy about how I looked was in 8th grade when I weighed 100 pounds. I am 5’0″. I think I would be happy at 116 lbs. but after menopause, my hormones have changed where my body stores my emergency energy stores, and I don’t care for that. So, I am thankful for clothes, and look forward to being a thinner, but not perfect, me.

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  17. Paul

    Great Vlog!
    After hearing the vlog and reading the comments, I am much more tolerant about my wife’s weight and looks.

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  18. Susan in Richmond

    Amazing! I was asking myself the same question this week: How do I know what I should weigh? I began losing weight 21 years ago but changed my diet along with exercising. I am 5’7″ and five years ago got down to 140 (from an all time high of 190), with good muscles. I did not know it but I was doing bright line eating at the time and my life hit a point where everything was very consistent so it was easily done. But without the information on bright lines (no sugar, no flour, etc.) I did not stay there. Your vlogs and presentations have been stellar and have added so much to my knowledgebase that I am very grateful, and grateful as well for the stark honesty of your statements. I am now 68 years old and figure that I’m just going to try to go for the bright lines (it’s a process of winnowing for me) and see what the body chooses to do. Indeed, there are ‘trouble spots,’ but I think the tendencies may be inherited: my late mother, at 5’5″ and 102 pounds, still had those pockets of fat on her inner thighs. This indeed is the weight we carry in case of sudden illness. I enjoy the way I feel, I can move well, but just want to be the best ‘me’ I can be, and find a comfortable place I can hold to. Part of this is finding out precisely the foods I can best tolerate. Sugar is out. Flours are heading out as well. Gluten and lactose are gone. I am now dealing with the notion that all grains will probably have to go. Thanks for the continued honesty and support! You are a blessing.

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  19. Fran Roxburgh

    Thanks, Susan. I realised this week that I am within a couple of kilos (5lb) of the goal weight I originally put on the research form, but I still have rolls round my tummy and midriff. Your analysis was really helpful, and echoed what I have been working on.

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  20. Beacon

    Dear Susan,
    What you are doing is absolutely phenomenal!!!! I look for your e-mails every day! I am aware of the bright lines. Until your book comes out and/or I save the money to attend a boot camp, how will I know about portions and any other grey areas outside the awesome biright lines of three meals per day, and no sugar or flour? Thank you, thank you, thank you for walking the talk …. Awesome!!!!
    Love,
    Beacon

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  21. Micky

    I had the same problem when I almost reached my goal weight. My neck and breast were looking too thin but my thighs were still too big. I solved this by building more thickness, muscle, and strength in my upper chest with exercises. Now it looks perfect, my thighs are beautiful and my ribcage isn’t visible anymore.
    I do understand why not to drain your willpower at the gym at first but when you can keep to your brightlines, I think you need to build muscle to look more healthy.

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  22. Carol K.

    My understanding of Bright Line Eating is that it is a way to find freedom from food addiction & obsession-whether that is over eating or under eating or something in between. If I am interested in achieving a certain physique, then I would want to look else where (weight training, macro/micro nutrient tweaking, etc.). These are 2 different paths. They may converge or cross, but losing or gaining weight does not create a specific physique. It might be my fantasy that if I lose “X” number of pounds I will look like a bikini model, however this is very unlikely, given my age, genetics and the very hard work it takes to be a bikini/figure/fitness model. Finding freedom from food addiction/obsession is to live a more “present” life, regardless. Sometimes reality is tougher than fantasy, but how exceptional to reach the end of one’s life knowing you were there for it. : )

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  23. Gina

    Thank you, Carol K. When I start to focus too much on my body, I remind myself of the core reason I’m abstaining from sugar/flour – to heal my brain and get myself living without depending on a substance. It doesn’t work anyway and ends up running my life. For now I’m practicing focusing on those things and allowing my body to take care of its response. I look forward to the leptin kicking in and creating a desire to really get moving again.

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